I’ve been thinking a lot about old friends and partners, in some ways I want to reach out and chat, but others I don’t think it would be good for my sobriety. I need to get over some people, but I can’t stop thinking about them
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For real bro I felt that
Not sure how much time you have, but the steps deal with past issues. Besides that I have found that i need to check my motives when I contact those people.
Lastly if there living in my head rent free I ask my HP to relive me of the thoughts.
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Same here 
Best believe I feel your pain. Ever since I started my sobriety I can tell you my group of friends has gotten smaller and smaller. My social life and my work life has been co mingling in which is not healthy. There's alot of people I wish that I could talk to again. However when you think about it why would you want to re open a book that has been closed. All we can do is move forward and heal. If those people would want to come back into your life boundaries must be set for both parties. As in aa has explained that we alcoholics like to control the narrative. In reality all we can control on how we act and move forward. It's ok to reminisce on the good times. However think twice on the negative relations and friendships cause it will bring you back into full circle which will damage your recovery. I wish you good luck and stay strong sir.
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Those that truly love you will come back in time. I’m dealing with the same. I’m just getting fit and focusing on finances now instead.
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I can relate to this. Although I am not in AA I told myself if I can stay sober for ( specific amount of time) and I truly stick to the process and change my life for the better….I will reach out to them in the form of a letter and see what happens. To be more specific I am talking about somewhere around the 100-150 day mark.
I recently moved back to the area where my x girlfriend lives she was really good for me and supported me but when I got back home I got drunk and cussed her out. I got back here the other day and tried to contact her and she blocked me and has a new boyfriend. She has moved on I just haven’t mentally and it’s been a year