I have realized, I grew up in a chaotic household. Others have too.
If someone is angry with you because you chose distance over drama.
If they are upset with you because you choose peace over disrespect.
Let it go and move on.
They may be craving the same chaos as that is what they are used to. The lack of chaos in healthy or meaninful relationships means they are not healed yet.
Instead of fighting backwards. If I am going to fight any battles, I choose to fight forward.
I absolutely love this, Emm. Letting people be who they are without letting it take up space in our healing minds is a sacred act I cherish deeply these days. Protect your peace and keep pushing forward.. one day at a time! 
Maxci, Thank you.
You made it sound much more eloquent than I could have.
Love your recent posts!
Keep up the awesome work as its great to read what you write. Almost all have echoed some part of my journey.
With gratitude!
I feel you. I had to move back in with my mother and she instigated so much hostility between us, she took me out of my peace nearly every week. I have nowhere else to go so ive had to take it. And its been challenging. I have a healthy mindset, she keeps saying I need healthy coping mechanisms and it sets me off eternally because she is the one who needs to stop doing what shes doing, not requiring me to better at coping with what she is doing. It frustrates me. I havent relapsed (thank god) but for a couple of months there i almost thought i was on the verge of being broken again.
Grateful for you, Emm! Per usual
Yes, I left them and they felt hurt that I didn't allow him to yell at me. They see themselves like the victim still. I see myself with boundaries
Trying hard to get there I can’t wait to feel unaffected by irrelevant things and people 
I understand how that can be. I look backwards sometimes at the 'crazy' environments I was in.
Almost every move I made (and there have been several since I started down this path), has been a move in the right direction.
Less noise from people that I cared about deeply. More nature and space to find solitude when I need it.
It takes time, but at each place I learned somethings. I shared and tried to help others understand there are other options.
I focused on my own progress as best as I could. When others made a mess, I tried to clean up for all the times I made a mess in my past. My way of amends I guess.
I made many mistakes and tried to learn from each.
It was NOT easy. I considered relapsing many times. But did not.
In mnay ways I am grateful for it all today. If any of those situations happen again I hope I can handle all of them a little better now that I know what to expect.
And there is a possibility someone else may have changed their ways as a result of me being there, that brings me a little more peace and gratitude today.
This too shall pass.
Diet Coke,
Your username brings a smile to my face. Love it and thank you for that!
When I reflect today, I realize many of us were at fault. We were victims and we were also immoral, etc...
Holding myself accountable for my ways is important to me. Letting go of others mistakes brings me peace.
I have learned to have zero expectations for others to change or treat me differently.
But how I treat people including myself matters.
It was not easy but the more i did it, the easier it got.
I wish you luck on your journey.
M Tackett,
Practice and do the best you can. It will get easier the more you do it.
Don't forget to treat yourself the same way too.
Its tougher to treat myself like I would others, but I am getting better at it slowly.
I wish you all the best on your journey.