People I’m struggling with family
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Family can always be a struggle, especially if you're in recovery. Stay strong, and try not to let Family push our buttons.
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How so?
Sorry to hear that, family can be very hard when in sobriety
They call me a loser
You can’t listen. People project. If you need to use your sober scissors to cut them off for a while then snip snip lady. No one in this world is harder on me than me, so cutting that rope with my family. When I was proud of myself they weren’t. When I really wasn’t proud of me they were there to make sure I know they weren’t either.
For me I needed to be alone and without their judgy commentary.
I also stumbled upon three amazing audiobooks that changed the way I thought about family, drinking, my experiences and expectations. If you want the names message me and I’ll share.
You are not a loser. A loser would y be here looking for answers. Take a deep breath and focus on what Shana needs and wants.
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Don't believe that
Remind the that, maybe there was some truth in that from the past but you are slowly moving away from that or that you don’t live there anymore. I just say I am so sorry to have hurt you, if you would only give me a chance you might notice a little change and if not that is quite ok, I accept responsibility of my actions and I am completely willing to suffer the consequences you feel I deserve. This has laid huge dividends for me. I hope this helps.
I’m interested in those pod casts, I sent you a friend request
I would be curious to know a little more about your family dynamics. If their anything like my family, toxic, abusive, emotionally unavailable, etc than I would suggest doing a intensive outpatient program for mental health. That was a huge game changer for me because I learned how to regulate my emotions and not let others dictate how I feel. Theres always room to grow! You got this.
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Praying for peace for you just focus on fixing you. All you can do. Don’t lose focus I know it’s hard.
Thank you I will take your advice
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You're not a loser. Remember, hurt people hurt people. I know personally, I hurt my friends and family in my active addiction. Some of them forgave me, and some did not. Some of the ones that did forgive me took longer than others.
They call you a loser for getting sober? You can’t control others. All you can do is control how you react or respond
Family can be the worst for our sobriety, especially if they that thru drink and don’t understand what happened with me. I firmly believe that they are in denial of their own problems. I just decided to stay away from it all for my own sanity and sobriety
I would get distant from unsupportive family and maybe stay distant. Too much stress v
I’m upset that your family is calling you a loser. You even just being on this app shows that you are working on you and trying to be the best that you can. It’s unfortunate but I can’t tell everyone in my family everything bc they’ll react in unhelpful ways. You’re doing your best and I believe in you, do your best to not let others bring you down. Let me know if you need anything.
I ditched my father. He’s a narcissist. No guilt 
Don’t entertain it. Stay focused on staying sober.
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