Speaking out is like a tree branch reaching to the sun for life. To help it grow. So sharing where you are. To those in Recovery, we can help each other grow. Let go and let God of your own understanding. We can all grow together…
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Good noon, Troy!
I'm happy to share where I am today.
I'm feeling some peace and gratitude, along with some sadness, today. My sadness isn't overwhelming right now and that's such a blessing.
I'm post-breakup of a five-year relationship.
The pain of the loss of the dream of forever-
the longing for the parts of my former partner that made them my best friend-
the pain of the knowledge that I hurt them very much, along with the fact that all I could see at the time was my pain-
And so much more about this loss-
It gets overwhelming at times.
Today though, I'm not fixing my feelings. I'm walking, sometimes crawling, through them. It's a daily choice.
Today I'm grateful for that choice.
So where are you today, Troy? 
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That is beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing. November 11 last year I got hit by a car walking. I’ve been through two surgeries already and having another one to go but I did not have to pick up a drink or a drug God‘s grace.
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Goodness! You've been through some incredible challenges! What a story you have to share!
I love your energy and enthusiasm. That's a great gift you share.
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Thank you to God be the glory
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I’m struggling right now. Trying not to lose sight of what’s important but facing terrible ramifications of my past. 5 year marriage gone, access to house gone (I get to still pay for it), full time access to my daughter gone. I am grateful for the two hours a week I get with her but I’m not sure how I can afford that long term since it’s supervised. It’s all very overwhelming and not at all where I thought I’d be at this point in my life. I never imagined screwing things up so badly and then the hopelessness sets in. I don’t know which way is up because there is no up. Things are not getting better they are getting worse.
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Mike, I hear your pain. I do. I've been in that painful, lost everything, even living in my vehicle, position.
I relapsed in good part because I isolated and gave into feeling sorry for myself.
It went NOWHERE fast.
I embraced the victim mentality for nearly my whole life. It's only been in the last year or two that I've started looking at my part in all of my pain and stopped blaming other people, situations, and circumstances so much.
I just ended a five-year relationship, recently. My addiction isn't just to substances, but to anything that changes my feelings, my headspace. I've been addicted to enmeshed, toxic relationships for over 40 years, no lie. This relationship almost killed me... and I still miss him. Isn't that crazy? I'm feeling these feelings of sadness and loss now. I'm not trying to run from them or look for a way out of or around them. I'm not trying to blame my former partner for my pain and the loss of the relationship, ANY LONGER. This change has taken effing hard work and a deep, deep look into myself.
I'm not the victim of other people or circumstances, any longer. I'm in charge of my feelings, my attitudes, and my future. Am I perfect at this? No. H3ll no. Do I slide back into self-pity and other self-defeating, self-destructive attitudes at times? Oh yeahhhhh.
Today, though, I am aware that it's up to me to change my life. For better or worse, the decisions I make and the actions I take, affect my life. And that includes who I allow into my life and how I allow them to treat me.
Think about going to rehab and getting into therapy. Go to the fellowship of your choice and get involved. Make the changes you need to in order to live the life you want to have.
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I’m so sorry for your pain and your loss Mike. That sounds like a tough place to be. Please understand and I know it sucks to hear. But this, too shall pass. We go to good and bad times in recovery.
If we don’t pick up a drink or a drug. It does get better. But if we pick up a drink or drug, everything gets much worse. I have you in my prayers, brother.
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