I think we all lie when we’re drinking. I did and I usually do not lie. However I only lied about if I was drinking until it got to the point it was obvious and ended up in detox
I remember the phase of hating AA. But, I kept going even though I hated it. I now have two weekly meetings that I attend. Glad I stuck it out. Being angry is part of the process.
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AA doesn't work for me either. Went from a 12 pack and a 1/5 a day for the last 20 years to nothing overnight. Been 8 months now and still don't want to touch the stuff. Just decided what I wanted to do with my life and committed to it. Doesn't work for most people but did for me.
Dan, there are lots of secular AA meetings. Zero god, zero prayer. No nonsense sobriety with down to earth, realistic and often intellectual groups. There are in person Secular AA meetings as well as zoom. Look up Jim Burwell. He was a founding member of AA that people, even hardcore AA's don't even know. He was an atheist. There are lots of his talks on YouTube.
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Thanks for your encouragement!
You have great replies above !! I wanted to add on, i always done rlly like AA. It actually makes me think about using more or in the past i’ll make a “friend” and we will relapse together sooo i only go to meetings when super necessary and im rlly in a funk and i keep to myself. I just listen and take what i need from the meeting.
The main thing that helped me stop using (i was addicted to blues) was going to detox and then group therapy. I learned a lot at group. I also healed what was going on inside and the reason I was using. Im on the right meds- it’s totally ok to be on medication. We think different. Our thinking is the issue, lying comes with addiction. I highly recommend group therapy or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (。·ω·。)ﾉ
I wish you the best you got a sober friend in me!! (っ'-')╮=͟͟͞͞ 
Dm me anytime if you wanna just talk or vent / rant i’ll do my best to listen to understand!!! I rlly hope your partner is patient and understanding. Addiction is tough but your stronger !!!
Be careful with alcohol withdrawal. Sometimes going to detox is nice, cos you got people around you who are going thru the same thing and it gives you a break from the outside world. Sending you positivity and peace 
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Take care Dan!!
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Maybe u should just be honest with her and urself, I’m positive u may feel better after and then possibly u 2 could come up with a game plan for u u kno?
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What helped was holistic detox in different ways and picking up a new hobby or skill that I enjoy and made new friends that I can hangout with without having alcohol around. And finding my inner child so that I could heal any issues or trauma. I also just started going to AA meetings and still learning how it works but I'm also keeping an open mind.
Be honest with her. Keeping that lie will allow you to lie yourself into another drink. Honesty will be your greatest strength. Talk it over with another recovering alcoholic first if you can.
AA doesn’t work if you don’t want it to work.
When you’re ready, the rooms will be here and I’ll save a seat for you.
We all have choices,it’s the ones we make that make us. No one is holding us down and pouring it down our throat. Still one day at a time.
I’ll say it again. Pick up Allen Carr’s book called “Quitting drinking “. I was able to put down the booze overnight. Information is vital.
Thanks, Ruth. I’ve been listening to This Naked Mind by Annie Grace, which is influenced by his teachings.
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Please be honest with her. That is one of the issues that my daughter just threw in my face how I lied to her so now our relationship isn’t good. Haven’t seen her in months. Better to be honest because if she finds out it may be worse. Good luck. 
