My husband and I went to my sister's for Christmas. While we were there, we witnessed alcoholism at its finest. My sister and her boyfriend of 6 months are full blown alcoholics, whom drink and carry on in front of my sister's children. Her children are undisciplined, they swear they hit and they are very rude, and they are only three and four years old. While I was there, I was doing the discipline because my sister just laughs at what they do and say because they are quote on quote so cute. My sister's boyfriend is such a bad alcoholic that he blacks out, and threatens to kill my sister and her children and wrap them under the Christmas tree. While we were there my husband and I had to listen to muffled threats through a door, which my niece and nephew were witness to as they sleep in the same room. On Christmas eve, my sister's boyfriend was drunk and high and blacked out, and projected his anger towards his ex-wife on to my sister. My husband and I were sitting on the steps going outside, when all of a sudden I hear my sister's boyfriend say who the h___do you think you are to talk to me like, well grabbing my sister by the back of her neck and throwing her onto the kitchen floor and into the kitchen cupboards at the same time. The way she landed, if he had of thrown her any harder she could have broken her neck and died. There were also times when he was balling up his fists and speaking through gritted teeth, he wanted to punch her but my husband and I were there. When I stood up to him, and asked him what justifies him to put his hands on somebody like that, he told me that it was for doing what I was doing, which was talking to him civilly. He started to ball up his fists and get his teeth at me, at which time I told him that I was not afraid of him. Please pray for my sister, as she did have him arrested that night and they were told that they could not be around each other for 3 weeks. The next morning, after she and I got into an argument because I was worried that she would have him back, she left and then came back with him. My sister needs help, and I don't know how to get it for her, other than reaching out to my mother and praying that she will realize herself that she needs to quit drinking and get help. Please pray for her and her children that they remain safe throughout this process.
Prayers hope her situation gets better all you can do is be there for her and give her support. Unfortunately you can't make her change or do anything she needs to see it for herself.
Melissa... At any time did the thought of removing him from the residence/apartment come to mind. Or maybe removing the children from that situation?
Is that the environment you'd want to see your niece and nephew grow up in and later on in life be a product of that environment? Dude don't be a doormat... Take action sister...
My prayer is that the children end up in protective custody. Outside of a toxic environment.
That both adults end up in jail, institution or rehab.before one of them ends up dead.
Police were called and he was removed but she brought him back there's a lot more to the story than I am choosing to post on here.
And trust me I am absolutely disgusted with my sister, because we were not raised like this at all. My mother was an alcoholic yes, but she recognized that and went and got help before it got too late. It is in the works to get my sister away from him, and make sure that the children are absolutely safe. I am actually making a wellness check on my sister, which will allow the police to see that my sister is with somebody that she should not be with. And that was at the ball in motion for the children to be in the safest position that they can be.
And I'm really hoping it's a rhetorical question that you ask if that's the situation I want my niece and nephew to grow up in. Of course it isn't. Again there's a lot more to the situation that I did not write on here.
Thank you for the update
You'll be happy to know that my husband made a call to the police, and informed them that my sister has her boyfriend back at the house. We just got off the phone with her, from discussing whatever or not her and her kids were going to be moving in with us, until we all move to my mother's. My husband and I will be moving to my mother's most likely in February, if not January, and my sister was offered the same. She just informed us that they're going to be staying where they are, and that she's probably going to be sending my niece to live with my mother for a while... My nephew lives with his father during the week. So, the way I see it, is that she's choosing the booze and the drugs, and the abuse over getting her life together and providing and being a decent mother to her kids. I'm sooooo disappointed in her. I honestly can't believe that she's choosing someone she's only been with for 6 months, who beats her and abuses her in other ways... Who threatened to have her and her kids wrapped under the tree for Christmas... Over her kids... Over her family! She's going to end up unalive... So honestly, I'm proud of my husband for calling. My sister needs a rude awakening, and needs to give her head a shake and put her kids first! PLEASE keep her kids in your prayers.
May God protect and bless them. I really pray they are safe. I'm scared for the kids.
Hope she stays strong and away from him for her safety