Trying to work through ... Just got in a heated argument with the hubby and trying to work through this craving. Realizing anger is a trigger and it sucks. I didn’t break anything though or punch any holes so that’s progress, I guess, right…?
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Been there! Totally relate and YES that is progress 
🫶🏼 My sponsor’s advice to me was…”Pause. Breathe. Ask God to remove/relieve you of your anger. Go do something/anything/any little task that is positive or productive.” And to my complete and utter shock, I felt so much relief so quickly! 
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Thank you! I grabbed a book and gonna try and change my mindset. And I need to keep breathing, I’m actually able to breathe now since coke was my doc, I definitely don’t want to go back to that. But faaawwwkkk… I did walk away when I caught myself yelling but then he came out to the living room and continued to argue. I didn’t want to leave like I usually would have, but I had to tell him he was threatening my sobriety and I want to communicate effectively w/him but I needed space. So now I’m here with my book, gonna try and get a few chapters in and hopefully feel better. Thanks for the idea and support, it helps to know I’m not alone.
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That is definitely progress! And recognizing that you wanted to communicate differently is huge.
What are you reading?
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I’m reading the Seven Husbands 
my new sober hobby. Although I’ve always liked reading I just haven’t done it in awhile and I never joined a book club before so that’s the new part. Trying to replace old hobbies with new ones lol
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Hi Ally, making progress is difficult at times, for that reason we sometimes might need to reach for a professional or someone to talk to to calm us down. Please feel free to reach out to our support tools section within the app or other users as we are all here to help each other out go through the sobriety journey, thank you for sharing some of your story with us!
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I will explore those options thank you. I’m always looking for more tools to add to my toolbox. I do have 5 people in my sober network that I can call as well and looking back now, I’m realizing last night was the time when I should have utilized them.
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Update: Last night, after about an hr we talked things through and moved on. It was really refreshing.
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Correct, that is progress.
Now for some work.
Work the steps on the anger/resentment and get to the root. Above all, just don’t drink no matter what.
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One step at a time.
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Conflict resolution itself is worth sobriety!
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