How do you start over after a traumatic event?
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You got to take it one day at a time hun. I lost my twin and my little brother they each passed away at separate times. Each time I had a severe relapse but I've been clean 13 years now you can do it keep your head up
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You can do it!!!
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Seek help in anyway that’s comfortable for you. I have been through some experiences myself and didn’t want to be a burden on anyone around me so I was coping (masking) with the pain alone. It finally took me finding the courage to go to therapy and learning to that’s it’s ok to talk about it and let those around me in so I could get the support I needed.
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One day at time. Talk too someone who ur comfortable wit talking to.
I did do it one day at a time but it's been sixty days and no one knows my journey but it been very much a journey. I personally done it alone ... I may tell you about it one day. It's a very interesting story
@amanda407859 YES YOU CAN!!
We've all gone through our share of "traumatic events" in life. From paper cuts to broken nails to death. We all go through them... It's called LIFE. Yes, at times it sucks, however we still have to suit up and show up.
Running to our DOC is not the solution. Only cowards run that direction and hide.
The strong, willing and committed run and dive into recovery. We know that running and gunning is not the answer.
So "How do you start over"? You put the 
down that's phuqing you up and jumping in to recovery. Put your ego/pride aside and scream for help.
You can do this. Add me. I'm hear/here for you. We, the Loosid Community, are here/hear for you.
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I think it’s about your perspective. Just by your language” starting over” means you feel something came to an end or you have to totally change because life happened. I don’t know what happened but I think getting through it is a better outlook then having to start over.
I would go to therapy and have the therapist teach you psychotherapy
Hi Michael,
Great post. I can tell you're from the old school of recovery - straight up, no sugar coating. My sponsor is like that. I love it.
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@alicia412342
Yes I am old school.
My first sponsor Clancy did not pull any punches. He told it the way it was. Back then we had a saying and it was kiss. Keep it simple stupid.
Well over the course of time the snowflakes started coming in and they were having hissy fits cuz their feelings got hurt cuz we called them stupid so we had to change it to keep it simple snowflake.
Every new sponsee that I pick up I can usually read them within 2 minutes. It is within those 2 minutes. I make a decision as to what kind of tampon I should get them heavy flow, medium or light flow and I'll buy them a box and hand it to them. They will look at They will look at me like what the f*** and I would tell him you're a p**** you're going to need this. Oh and they learn real quick that I don't screw business. I take my sobriety and so should and so will my sponces if not, you're no longer my sponsey and I am no longer your sponsor
Let go of the story. I held onto trauma for so long that created new stories of I need to heal this do that to be happy and whole and complete. So many chase and seek and get lead by people more lost then they are. Understand that we are all souls having human experiences and can just decide to change the projector. Brian Whiters is on you tube and is a reframing mindset coach I worked with after wasting 5 years and too much money to even count on healing workshops/therapist/reiki/yoga and many more rabbit holes that led straight back to myself.
Dont get caught or brought to the healing trap by others!
Brian has videos on youtube that can start getting you on the right track of thinking. We are very powerful behind all of the old limiting beliefs and patterns created before we were 7 and through life. We can change our minds with staying conscious through the day choosing better thoughts and patterns creating better loops. Seeing and knowing you are powerful and your mind controls your whole world!
Recovery is just another story to stay stuck also. Go straight to the source! Your mind!! It is very simple (not easy) but thats just another story also. After a while it gets easier and you can truly break out of the looping.
I thank god I saw through all of this being man made up stories and so many stuck their whole lives on a journey that can stop the second they make the decision “I Am ok right now”!
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