Hi Stacy me too i.stay at home all the time knowing I need tp.go out there...but here I sit
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There's good people out there. Find your meeting, maybe a spiritual community. Something that makes you happy
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Go to a meeting all my close friends are members of my home group. AA saved my life then gave me the life I was always meant to have. If you canât go to a meeting do on line meeting for a bit til you feel comfortable enough to go.
I know it sounds hard but AA meetings are a great way to make friends!
Reach out to someone even if itâs a stranger,AA OR NA would be something wonderful for you to try I guarantee you they will welcome you with open arms!!! If you ever need someone to talk to Iâm always here!!!
I feel like we are the exact same. If you want we can do a zoom one together you don't have to put yourself. Please message me back. @!!!ÂĄ!!
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I actually came on the app because I am so lonely. Idk who I am without drinking and I drink because I'm alone. But meeting friends while drinking usually doesn't work or last. Anyways I'm proud of the work you are putting in for the last year. And you still are choosing not to drink but instead reached out.
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Me to Bianca
The unmanageability, chaos I would not want to go back to that way of life. Our your currently working a recovery you donât have to lonely hang out with other people that are like minded people. My recovery is my greatest achievement in my life. I hope you donât drink. 
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Address the causes. I think I'm finally going to be able to do something about my back pain and I'll have a much easier time staying sober. Loneliness is a big trigger, but what has stopped you from making friends and socializing? Get to the root!
I'm sorry you are going through this. Don't drink
Thank you all for these replies!!! They helped me so much i hope to message and meet all of you. IM STILL SOBER!! Im still trying day by day...therapy, one meeting, a family get together...very hard...makes me exhausted..even doctors appointments. I really appreciate you more than you know...i dont feel as alone.
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Hey Stacy!! Sohappy to hear you reached out and felt you got some support here!
By staying in my home, I couldn't get the support because I wasn't reaching out. No one could support me if I didn't step out of my comfort zone. Even though it didn't feel good, it felt familiar and safe.
Kudos for you to reach out in this forum. I hope this encourages you to step out of your house and do something just a little different than you have been.
Please share with us how you are doing!!
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It's going to be hard to find people who truly care about you and your sobriety. Be careful who you decide to let in, and especially don't let it be a man... Men will pretend to care only to use your time of weakness and vulnerability so that they can use you in others' ways to. You're not alone, though. Others are around you and waiting to be given the opportunity to help you, but you have to be willing to let that happen.
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Different people find different ways to connect. There are all kinds of online meetings. I think itâs hard in the beginning if youâve been using for a long time to figure out what is a healthy or safe friend versus someone that youâre codependent or youâre crushing on. Itâs hard to find that healthy part of yourself as well. I was years in recovery before I realized that my ADHD probably needed to be medicated! I had been terrified to treat that aspect of myself, but once I got on appropriate medication it really helped me.Sometimes continuing to explore the things that are holding you back can move you forward. I wish you luck in your journey. Keep reaching out to people who have something that you want when you go to meetings whether online or in person.
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