I just feel so alone all the time...lonely and alone. I didn't relapse it's like I'm started to see why I always do. I know most of that and I know I need to get to that but I just can't even barely leave my house.I havent had a frirnd in 10 years only in rehab. I feel like despair frustration emotionally disregulated EVERYDAY and I have stuff around me but it's just not the same...it's like I wanna reach out but I dont know what to say. I feel just MISUNDERSTOOD!! I didn't work thru 9 rehabs in 10 years to get a year and a half to feel like this. I'm not happy and sometimes it seems like it was easier drinking.
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Hey thank you for being honest and reaching out. Things like church and the gym, heck even work are good social spots for me. Drinking just messes with my head and keeps me isolated. Without alcohol, my hormones balance out and I have a chance. But it's still up to me to join communities that are helpful to me.
Have you thought about signing up for a gym and doing their classes or getting a personal trainer?
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Hi Stacy, I have 4 months clean and I feel similar in that I tend to isolate and itās not easy for me to reach out. Iāve often called my sponsor bawling my eyes out because I felt so alone and lonely. It can be depressing to be working so hard to be clean and still feel so disconnected.
NA says ākeep coming backā, you WILL meet people who understand and will love you through this.
Are you in meetings? Have you found a sponsor. Believe me friend, it makes a big difference. Please reach out, letās walk through this together 
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The loneliness is the hardest thing to overcome. I need company.
I took in a sober roommate and
2 cats keep me company.
I date without get entangled...that's not easy.
It takes planning, that's for sure.
You can do it!
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That took a lot of courage to write, Stacy. I hope sharing it provided some relief. If not, please remember that there are so many of us out there in the world rooting for you because we've felt the same pain and know there is light and happiness in the future! Feel free to reach out anytime via the chat.
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Iām 5 months and feel like this sometimes tooā¦ I donāt have many that I connect with either. If you are looking for a friend please donāt hesitate to reach out(I am too)!
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I definitely get that. I was a shut in and regularly relapsed. But then I got in an oxford house and made 1 friend who is super involved in recovery groups and asked me to go to this and that where I made more friends. Now I get antsy if I sit at home for even a day. Try just going to a meeting and stick around after, people WILL come and talk to you if you're open about what you're feeling.
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Thank you everyone for your amazing and empathetic responses..I have a therapist, try to work out, try to eat well, have been started more meetings...I guess my time will come when it's time 
You all helped me get through my day! 
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Hey Stacy! I would suggest trying the NewForm app to get that feeling of community in your life. It has helped me so much personally in my recovery journey (I have 18 months sober at this point) and I have trouble making connections in the āreal worldā. NewForm hosts so many free in-person and virtual events (so you donāt even have to get out of your pjs if you donāt feel like it!) ranging from exercise to music to art to recovery focused meetings! And if you attend a virtual meeting and donāt feel comfortable at first, you can always attend with your camera off so you still have that feeling of amenity. I have met so many good people and have made some really great friends on the NewForm app. The opposite of addiction is connection!
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Sobriety is not for wimps!! It just gets different at first, then better, then different. Being happy, joyous and free is a choice that requires being willing to work the 12 steps and grow spiritually and being courageous enough to try things before that l considered āboringā. I have several decades clean and sober and l can still remember being wired for sound in the early days. But that was my experience. You are doing the right thing reaching out and being honest about where you are. I read a lot of recovery literature. Now you have podcasts, music, autobiographies, and all kinds of things you can type into. For me getting involved in service work early on helped me get out of myself and focus on helping others and that helped with an attitude adjustment that was greatly needed. I wish you the best.
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Ur in a poo season it will pass stay strong trust in god
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Service wrk is key enjoy life. Not just celebrate a clean date
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For what itās worth I didnāt turn the page until months 18-19 but I know everyone is different. Stu strong stay the courseā¦. Itāll be worth it
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The hardest thing for me is I'm 19 days free from alcohol, and I live in Las Vegas
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That's why I sign in sites like this and I love volunteering for less fortunate
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Iām glad your here and I look forward to getting to know you more.
Stacy, youāre not alone and thanks for sharing. Early sobriety can be lonely and difficult for sure. Itās natural to feel like youāre feeling. However, there are many solutions. I had to force myself out of my comfort zones that werenāt even comfortable. I went to in person AA meetings daily and nightly. At first I just listened, then I shared my feelings with the group. People in recovery totally relate! I made meaningful connections and friends.
Then I became a contributing member of the SOBER community. Life got easier and much better.
Our disease wants us alone and miserable so we relapse.
Iām here if you want to talk
Hey Stacy, hereās something for you:
I hope you read this and believe me..
You are needed, and I know you don't feel like it right now.but you are.
I know you've been hard on yourself, how you view and talk to yourself is nothing you'd repeat outloud.
I know you feel like this is it, this is all the future holds for you.
Keep going.
Keep trying every single day.
You're already making waves, moving mountains, becoming who you're meant to be.
It all starts with showing up for YOU, trusting YOU, and believing in YOU.
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Know that you're never alone. Walk into the rooms of AA. We got you
I sent a friend request I would rather speak to you instead of everyone