My good buddy is struggling with this nasty disease. I met him in my first weeks of recovery. He had a few months, and I was just coming back. Just before his 2 year soberversary he relapsed. That was 3 or 4 months ago. Since that time he’s picked up a few white chips. I thought he was doing better. He hooked up with my sponsor, and seemed to be getting back on track. This past week he stopped communicating again. Finally spoke with him yesterday. He sounds like sh!t. Mad at the world and blaming everyone for his problems. Anyway, his wife kicked him out of the house. He’s on a contract with his employer that if he drinks again he’s done. His daughters (young adults) and wife are begging him to go to detox/treatment. I spoke with my sponsor last night about it. He told me that I can’t do much… that king alcohol/drugs is the great recruiter. I get it. I’ve lived thru it. I just don’t want to see my friend to suffer more consequences. This disease will take you down fast. Family, employment, health, legal issues…the list goes on and on. The guy has a good life. He’s got a healthy family, good job, and he’s quite a sweetheart when sober. Only we can understand why/how one could throw it all away with a drink/drug. My wife keeps shaking her head and saying she doesn’t understand why he’s drinking. Some may argue again the disease concept of addiction. I don’t really care to debate it. I know what I see. I know what I’ve been thru. It’s completely insane. May we all stay sober today. May we all have some gratitude for our sobriety today. Life may be far from perfect, but I know for darn sure that a drink or a drug is not my solution. My solution is to work on my recovery ODAAT so I don’t feel the need to run and escape from life.
I hope your friend is doing better now, Lee. It's tough to be in his situation and yours.
I had a good friend who was unable to stay sober .
She's a great person and it broke my heart to see her 
In such an addictive mess.
My sponsor told me that if she wants it bad enough she'll get it 
I had to let go of her,pray and let God take over.
She has now received the Miracle of Sobriety . The desire for a drink or a drug has left her.
This was after 2years of using.
You never know what can happen when you let go and let God 
Thank you Linda 
Unfortunately, he’s not. He has given away his power of choice. Sobriety is precious. All we can do is take care of ourselves, and share the message of a way out of our problem. It’s been inspiring to see you continue to your sobriety journey. Appreciate your support
Thanks for sharing Barbara It’s hard to let go, but I know from my own experiences that these things can’t be forced.
That sucks brother. I will keep you and him in my thoughts.
I am going through this now with one of my sponsees.