I caved today and I don't know how to move on or forgive myself.
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Ask yourself why you caved and if it was worth how you are feeling now...the next time think about these things before you cave and reach out to someone to help you not cave. I know exactly how you are feeling!!
Mirror work!
Mirror work can be a powerful tool for self-reflection and building self-esteem during sobriety. Here’s a step-by-step guide to incorporating it effectively:
- Set Up a Comfortable Space
Find a quiet, private place with a mirror where you won’t be disturbed.
Sit or stand comfortably in front of the mirror.
- Prepare Mentally
Take a few deep breaths to center yourself.
Approach the practice with an open mind, even if it feels uncomfortable at first.
- Speak Affirmations
Look into your eyes and say positive affirmations aloud, such as:
“I am strong and capable of staying sober.”
“I am worthy of love and healing.”
“I forgive myself for past mistakes and choose a better path.”
Repeat each affirmation at least 3-5 times, speaking clearly and with conviction.
- Acknowledge Emotions
Notice any emotions that arise—whether it’s sadness, relief, or discomfort—and allow yourself to feel them without judgment.
If tears come, let them flow; they’re a release.
- Set Intentions
Use the mirror to reaffirm your goals for the day, such as:
“Today, I will stay focused on my sobriety.”
“I will seek help if I need it.”
- Express Gratitude
End the session by looking into the mirror and saying something like:
“Thank you for showing up for me today.”
“I’m grateful for another chance to grow.”
- Repeat Daily
Consistency is key. Practicing mirror work daily can help reinforce positive self-talk and strengthen your resolve to stay sober.
Tips for Success:
If affirmations feel awkward at first, write them down and read them until they feel natural.
Over time, add affirmations specific to your journey and struggles.
Pair mirror work with journaling to track your progress and emotions.
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You can. Do this do we believe in you!
Slips happen. It’s okay. Take it day by day. Use your support system. Go to meetings. Keep sharing on here. I am available if you want to talk
You’ve got this!
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We are all just sober for the last 24 hours, Patrick. This can happen. Don't beat yourself up about it.
One day at a time brother one day at a time
Coming back here to thank everyone of you for commenting. It means the world and I'm doing much better.
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Don't be too hard on yourself. For me, an accountability partner is the one thing that helps me most. Not just to help me stay sober but also help me forgive myself when I make mistakes. I myself am trying the 90 meetings in 90 days and it is also helping a lot. Good luck, you are not alone 
That's great to hear!