Today would have been 47 days sober, but on Saturday, I made the unfortunate choice to go to a friend's engagement party, knowing there would be an open bar. Therefore, today marks day two of my sobriety journey. I understand that relapse can be a part of this process, and I am committed to holding myself accountable.
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I noticed no one has offered support yet... so I will. I've noticed that sometimes when people relapse support scatters. I'm listening and I appreciate your honesty. That's not easy especially online. But you told the truth and so will I... are you really ready to do everything it takes to get sober? Including not putting yourself in the way of temptation? Perhaps there was a different choice. What are you doing to support your sobriety today? Trust me when I say you have to want and do it unlike anything else in your life, every single day. Again thank you for your honesty 
now find meeting.
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I don’t think I could have said it better than Stephanie. When we make mistakes, we own them, and try to be better tomorrow than we were today.
Absolutely nothing is more important than your sobriety - your true friends and family will understand that you cannot attend the party - or they won’t - doesn’t matter - no events where alcohol is present - I change my route to Not drive past liquor stores, don’t attend family events because they drink, don’t hang with friends who drink (unless they are not drinking as well) - situations that make you anxious, avoid them
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Just pick right back up where you left off. I believe your recovery starts the moment you relise that you have a problem, not the last time you used. Keep moving forward. Reach out to supportive people and believe in yourself. You got this.
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A wise man once told me after my third treatment. I went back to my neighborhood bar and played pool with my friends & was drinking 7up & my father was leaving to go home to my mom & he looked at me and said NOTHING CHANGES IF NOTHING CHANGES. I didn’t understand what he meant & I went to 6 more treatment centres over 20 yrs without know what my father meant & at my 10th treatment intake I told the therapist I had a drug problem not a drinking problem. It was a Friday afternoon & she told me we’d talk about it on Monday & I went back to my room & thought about it & it dawned on me that I had said the same thing for the 10th time & I was sitting in my room when I could hear my father voice in my head saying NOTHING CHANGES I F NOTHING CHANGES…….instead of asking my father 20 yrs before what he meant I struggled & lost 2
Houses & my marriage was pretty much over at this point in my life August 1st 2018 is my sobriety date & my father was so right I always went back to my neighborhood the same bars the same people & nothing changed but August 1st of 2026 i celebrated 8 yrs later f no drinking I’ve relapsed 2 times on cocaine 3yrs & 2 months both times & I used for 4 weeks both times. I have since lost my wife & children due to those to relapses & deservedly so……my family walked out of my life over 2 yrs ago & I’m where I am today for choices I’ve made. My family loved me when I couldn’t love myself & today I love & respect them walking away cause eventually the people we love have the right to live a life free from our choices & our addictions. Today my life is about making amends to my wife & children my grandchildren have never seen me drunk or high. My grandson is 8 & my granddaughter is 4. But don’t take the path I did……I should have just asked my father what he meant then worrying about looking stupid. Pride & ego will kill us
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I enrolled myself in an IOP evening program today along with surrounding myself around like minded people.
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Thank you for your support Chad.
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Karthik ,You made solid choice doing IOP. I would recommend meetings. You have read some great advice from people that love and care because we know the suffering. Do not go to shame, the addiction loves it when we become the shame. Today is your new sober date period. Pray, meetings, pray, make your recovery the most important thing. God bless stay strong brother.
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I believe in you.
You can do it. There will always be that voice telling you I will just have 1. It never goes that way. Be good!
No such thing as one.
Man everyone makes mistakes. That’s how we grow as people my brother. Always keep one foot in front of the other and be thankful you’re able to walk up and see another day. Just be a better version of yourself tomorrow. If I can overcome 20 years worth of addiction and come out on top then you definitely got this my guy. You took a big step realizing and holding yourself accountable.
It was the first time I didn't lie to myself.
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Good stuff man. Accountability plays a big part. You did your part. When I got back from California I had to move away from my brother because he was always trying to smoke. He’d show up smelling like bud and I just had enough. Sometimes you gotta completely remove yourself from that situation. It happens
You're probably NOT an alcoholic
From my understanding, relapse is part of the journey or you can make it not part of your journey for some of us. We go back out 23 maybe four arms but we eventually get it right and that’s when we have officially hit our rock bottom there’s no more law you can go and once you’ve reached that low, you know the only place to go from there is up all I say is keep fighting. Do not let this be your end.
Trust me I've hidden enough bottles in my life and lied about it.
Kept on with the program. Love going to meetings and meeting people with the same problems as me.
Or you could go and stop running from yourself just commit to going to the party and start by telling the bartender that you're sober and not to make you alcoholic drinks even if you change your mind later
he should just make you always alcoholic free drinks all night not matter what you change your mind to be later They all know they have been around. All kinds of people