Im so ashamed with myself and feel super guilty & the regret, i relapsed 2 1/2 months, Im now 8 days sober and doing my best going to meetings and such but knowing by dr that i almost died this relapse scares me because i dont want to die but the thoughts havebeen there knowing i lost all my family again! Dont know if i have the strength to rebuild!!!! Any advice would be great on how to handle all these emotions
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Cassie, thank you for being brave enough to share this. First off—8 days sober is a HUGE deal, especially after something that scary. A relapse doesn’t erase who you are or the strength it took to come back. Shame and guilt are loud early on, but they don’t get the final word. The fact that you’re going to meetings, asking for help, and choosing life right now says everything about your strength—even if you don’t feel it yet. Rebuilding feels overwhelming when you look at it all at once, so don’t. Just focus on today. One day, one choice, one step. You’re still here for a reason, and you are absolutely not alone in this. Keep going—we’re rooting for you
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It’s always darkest before the dawn. You’re here for a reason. You can do this!
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I have so been there. Many times. The first thing you need to do is congratulate yourself for eight days. I mean, we take this a day at a time, an hour to a time a minute, etc.. take this relapse as a lesson and try to figure out what got you to pull that trigger. Was it boredom? Did you feel like you had things under control?
It is so easy for anybody on the outside to say well, you should’ve just not drank/used. Unfortunately, that is not how we are wired.
We totally have your back. I am no pro at this, but if you need someone to talk to, I’d be glad to help.
Just take it a step at a time.
Take care and be kind to yourself. You’re not alone.
You’re not alone and you can do this! I had to use my guilt, shame, anger and fear to fuel my resolve. I finally committed myself to my sobriety 1,000%! I went to AA/NA every morning and night for way over a year, got sponsored and did the 12 steps multiple times. 16 years completely clean and my sobriety is still my number one priority over finance, romance and even family. Sober I can have it all and way more. Not sober I get only misery.
Time to get serious. It’s your life, what do you want?
I’m here if you want to talk
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Yes, above all choose sobriety, it’s the best self love! Only you can do this for yourself, self love over misery!
Focus on what you’re doing right instead of what you are or HAVE done wrong. The past is meant to stay behind you, not in front of you. I know this is way easier said than done, but you just gotta. Shoot, these days I’m focusing on all the positives… I got my bills paid, gas in the car, repotted plants, had long conversation with my kiddo (which never would have happened while drunk)… alll the things!!! Hang in there!!
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Change 3 things,1 places2people3things be only friends with clean and sober people! Glad you had courage to quit and come back! Please hit as many as meetings as you can
I sent you a friend request! I have 8 months and 5 days clean and sober! KISS(KeepItSimpleSilly)
The fact you got back up and brushed it off and got sober again is the biggest strength of your story. Keep your head up.
Hello Cassie. I know that this is so challenging to do right now when you’re in the boxing ring with yourself. Step out. Step out of the boxing ring with you and look at the fact that today you’re making a choice not to drink, today in this moment you’re making a choice not to use. Take a deep breath hold it for four blow it out. Do that for about four times. Roll your shoulders forward four times roll your shoulders backwards four times shake your hands out do some side stretching and some floor stretching and start looking up positive affirmations so you think so. You feel so you are.
We all stumble, we are human. The important part is what you're doing now. Getting back up and continuing this journey. Don't let a stumble steer you away from this path.
What made you go out? What was the trigger?
Don't beat yourself up. Love and forgive yourself. One day at a time. You're doing great today!!!