Relapsed about a month ago after almost 3 months sober and then again this past weekend after about a month. How do I admit that to my loved ones and own up to this recent one without them losing all trust and faith in me?
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No one can say for certain what someone else’s feelings will be. All you can do is be honest. You are doing more harm to trust by lying and hiding it. Imagine if they found out by someone other than you… all we can do is the next right thing. Is that sometimes uncomfortable? Heck yeah it is, but in your soul you know it is the thing that is best.
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Sometimes, the best way to preserve trust and faith is to be open about your mistakes. The raw honesty is a sign that you truly are trying to change.
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I’ll be honest… I’ve been in the same boat recently. Still haven’t quite overcome the fear.
Be honest and make sure you let them know that you’re back on track and putting in the work. But be prepared, because they here a right to be upset. Honesty goes a long way.
Unfortunately I’ve been in ur situation too many times. Tell them the truth, move forward and pray!
Why do you have to tell them anything? Your “day count” is yours, you are under no obligation to share it, or the fact that you relapsed, with people who will use it as an excuse to treat you differently.
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Honesty is the only way. Try to explain why it happened. Again honesty. Apologize and tell them what you are doing differently so I doesn't happen again.
You don't mention what you are doing. I'm sober 15 months this time around. I don't know alot about cocaine but I do know Alcohol and addiction in general. All addictions manifest in the same manner. Meaning we are selfmedicating
I agree wholeheartedly with this.
I agree that being honest is important, but I'm not sure that silence isn't okay for now. I'm new here, but I would focus on building you strength in sobriety, learning methods to find joy in sobriety, and doing the things you need to do to stay sober. Although this is just my thought, if you do that and are successful I would think a few months down the road of sobriety would be a fine time to say something like ' yeah, I had a slip up a few months ago that scared me but I got back on the wagon with and for a purpose and it's been x months, for which I am very grateful. There's a difference between a relapse and a slip up as well, which I think is important to note; we don't want either, but getting back to recovery quickly after a slip up keeps us from long term relapse (from my understanding). God Bless you friend.
I’ve been in this situation and I don’t feel I need to tell anyone. I’m doing it for myself and I need take it up with my self
Well unfortunately they won’t be happy to hear you had relapsed but hiding it won’t help either and although a few may be upset and choose not to talk you those who truly love and care for you will still be there for you. Although you’d have to work very hard to regain that trust and restore the relationships you had built up. End of the day your sobriety is taken up with yourself first and nobody else I relapsed a few times before my latest current streak stuck but be strong and push through you got this. One second, one minute, one day at a time
Be honest to your recovery support people that you trust about it to keep you accountable to your peers in recovery , but you do not have to tell your family if it will upset them or they won’t receive it well.
Don’t I’d your not comfortable or ready. It could do more bad than good. Follow your gut. There is absolutely nothing wrong with keeping things away from people family or otherwise who won’t have the understanding. I’ve learned that finally after many lessons learned.
Relapse might be apart of your process but as long as you pick up all your tools you know work and you strive to be sober and do the the next right thing put all your doings into your higher powers hands you cannot fail
#1 People who do not struggle with addiction will not understand. I have a sponsor and a large circle of recovery friends in AA (and some NA friends) that I can be honest with that understand what I’m going through. Be honest but YOU choose your audience
#2 If you DO NOT battle with me in in the arena of addiction and recovery I’m not interested in your criticism or feedback.
You can love or support me emotionally. I will make healthy strong boundaries.
- I CANNOT work with my family through their feelings and emotions around MY addiction. They will need to go to AL-ANON or seek counseling from an objective person.
What I can do: not pick up, my best, work on my recovery and stay in my lane. I keep my side of the street clean.