I was willing to go to any length to get drunk. Now I’m willing to go to any length to be sober.
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Great answer! You hit the nail on the head!
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There is nothing wrong with you. Read Alcohol Explained by William Porter, it's easy to read and understand what alcoholic does to keep you addicted. A must is Gillian Tietz's website, podcast and YouTube videos. She a recovering alcoholic and talks alcoholism. She is educated but talks that you understand it. I listen to her podcast but a friend loves her videos. I know this will help you understand what is going on. Reach out anytime
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Because they see that you are worth it. You need to see that. They won't give up on you bc they love you.
I saw something here on Loosid that really struck a chord with me.. I don't remember the exact wording (maybe someone could help me out here) but, it is something like....your addiction is out in the parking lot, doing push ups...waiting for you to relapse... we always need to work on our sobriety on a daily basis. Addiction is just waiting for us to be weak to sneak in and take control.
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So start again. As much as I love the theory of AA, I had to let go of that idea that if I relapsed I failed, raise my hand BS. You are still here. Many of us don’t come back from a relapse. We die. So start again.
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You are not “ wrong “ or broken or weak. You are merely responding to the pain of a broken world . Coming here and trying again makes you strong .
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You've become addicted to an addictive drug. There's nothing wrong with you and you've only failed if you don't brush yourself off and keep trying. The fact that you are here and talking about it is a huge accomplishment all by itself.
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What's wrong is You Keep On Believing the LIE; that this time, everything will be okay. But it never is is it?
Have you been going to AA meetings?
Do you have a sponsor? Has a sponsor been getting you started on the 12 steps?
If the answer to these questions is NO then you have the answer as to why you chose to drink rather than stay sober.
You may not like that answer but that is the answer.
Meeting makers make it!
You should also get yourself a copy of the big book of AA and start reading some of the stories in the back. The program is outlined in the first 164 pages.
When you get that desire to drink again, and you will, play the scene all the way forward.
You may feel satisfied for a very short period of time but sooner or later you're going to be right back where you were before you picked up the drink and you will have accomplished nothing. Not only will you have to start all over again but you will have to carry all the guilt with you like you are doing right now.
What about phone calls?
Did you call anybody before you picked up a drink? Nobody ever wants to use that thousand pound phone but that is one of the best tools out there. You have to start acquiring friends that have long-term sobriety that you can count on to be by your side when you need them and you're thinking of drinking.
If you take the suggestions and apply them, your life will get better one day at a time and you will stay sober. But its up to you.
One more thing. You have to learn to take action outside of this app. This app is a great tool but it's not a solution.
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A new sobriety dates means you are a miracle. Lean into your sober self and trust.
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It’s just a battle lost. Not the war. You have tomorrow. Don’t beat yourself up. U got this.
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Ha! Who hasn’t failed at this ? We wouldn’t be addicts if we didn’t.
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Hey, it's going to be ok. There's nothing wrong with you. We're all human and make mistakes. The point is we learn from them and we get back up and keep fighting no matter what. Even when we think people have given up on us as in my case. We get clean and sober for ourselves first and foremost. We shouldn't dwell on the past or project too far out into the future. We only have today.
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Rather than ask “what’s wrong with you” I suggest asking “what happened to you” — nothing is wrong with you. If you ask yourself what happened to you.. you might find deeper underlying reasons that could go back early in life. And then work to heal from them
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Phew!!! Thought you said a bottle lost... just a battle.
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Relapses happen sometimes. You’re not failing, and you’re not a disappointment. We gotta take steps and do what we can to avoid them, but since it already happened, you can learn from it. Maybe take a look at the situation that made you relapse and identify your triggers if you haven’t already. And kicking yourself over it will do nothing but make you feel worse and maybe lead to more relapses. I’d say accepting that it happened, knowing recovery isn’t always a perfectly straight line, and continuing to move forward without substances is a good thing to do. And yeah, reaching out! The fact that you did that is really great!
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I'm reading about tools to help heal from trauma. It's a start but a tuff process.
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Nothing is Wrong with U Lovie! U just learn a different way the hard way!! Forgive yourself,luv yourself. Life happened and u did what u knew. Now take what u know and have learned from this relapse and keep moving forward. U R not Alone. I am on your 6.
The elephant standing in the room is the fact you said "I let my friends and family down again." You can't get sober for anyone but yourself. Not an ex, a child, mom, dad, best friend or whoever. You can't even get sober for a life threatening illness, which addiction is. You have to get sober for YOURSELF.
This is a simple program for complicated and complex people, that's why so many of us struggle.
90 in 90, get a sponsor, WORK the steps. Yes it IS work, but you are worth it. Here's to the next day of your best self! 
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The fact that you are still here with us means you have another opportunity to try again. I’ve been there, relapsed and hospitalized a bunch. It’s so easy to be tough on yourself, but one day you’ll finally get over to the other side and find what works for you. Try something different. I used to go twelve step groups, then I switched over to working with a therapist and using meds. I still engage somewhat with twelve step programs, but I realized I need to look for what was going to work for me. Be open minded, open to learn and try new routes, and you’ll find your place. 
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Check out some of these Doctors videos. While in rehab I sent this info to my husband. It made him finally understand. https://m.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYCfN98iD1frkbkvTVjKr2U2KciDMMtWy