Unfortunately after 2+ months I relapsed this weekend for my 31st birthday. What started off great with family, friends and even a date with a great girl, ended with 20 beers and lashing out at people in my phone with drunken calls and absolute nonsense. A complete 180 and as I sit here typing this all I can think is you’re a darn fool Tyler. Shame and Guilt but one thing I know is those 2+ months I was sober things were truly getting better in several aspects of my life. It’s heartbreaking how quickly the devils poison can ruin things. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Family is disappointed, friends have had enough of me, and my date thanked me for a good night but my drunken calls scared her away.
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Try to stay strong ! It could only get worse if you let it. If we let the guilt and shame take over you will drink again. Hit a meeting get a sponsor and work the steps. You slipped up . SO WHAT! It’s what we do. Just try something different this time! You got this!
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It’s ok, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get to a meeting. 
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If nobody else believe you can do this believe in yourself 🫶🏾 you can do this
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Well we sure do know how to make a birthday memorable don't we? 
Don't be so hard on yourself, the dust always settles. Things have a way of blowing over and people are quick to forgive when they see changed behavior. Keep this experience as a reminder 
You're on to brighter days now
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Stop beating yourself up, thats the disease talking to you. The fact that you are here being honest. I hit on a gay man in a drunk rage. We have all been there. He even stopped taking my calls, I was so desperate to not be the hope to die drinker that I knew I was
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I had to stop giving men my attention. You are going to take a journey into becoming a new person. Take it one moment at a time, do you have a sponsor? You are not alone.
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It won't do any good to punish yourself over it! Put it behind you, and go to meetings! You've got this!
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Stay strong man you will be back at 2 months before you know it.
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Been there done that more times than I’d like to admit. Tyler let’s start with day one and definitely try to attend a meeting a day for 30 days if not more
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What happened is now in the past, don’t live in the past now. Get right back into recovery and don’t beat yourself up. Learn from this to prepare for future temptations. Hang in there!
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Man, I totally understand. Let's take today to get better, and stay in the moment. Hopefully in time your friends and family will warm back up to the real you. We're all in this together.
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Unless you had been through all 12 steps and had emotional sobriety, it would be considered a relapse, otherwise you just went back to drinking, now with that been said I want to emphasize the importance of working those 12 steps and encourage you to really do it and get the power needed for when the thought of taking a drink comes, you won’t, it’s been my experience for the last twenty years. I hope the best for you
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Shake it off, get back on your bike and keep peddling! Show everyone that it was a mistake and you are not that person.
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I have to laugh about my last birthday or I'd cry!!! 4realz...$1500 damages...cops...the works...only cd have been worse if jail or sm1 physically hurt which was a hair away. I look back on that day now 7 months ago and KNOW that I have a serious problem with alcohol. Only 18 days sober and learning to forgive myself and let go of the past. We can't change anything only learn from it hopefully
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