Tell us about a repaired relationship since you've sober. It can be your kid(s), parent(s), or anyone. How have things improved? Is the relationship better than you anticipated?
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I made amends with my parents. It's great, I feel they trust me now for a first in my life but I could be wrong.
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I know making amends isn't easy--but I'm glad it's possible and the trust is building. I hope you have an opportunity to prove trust to your parents.
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I saw my best friend on his bday last month. We were mad close since '96 and between '21 and '25, a little rocky. I apologized for everything I may have caused to hurt the friendship and his family. When I was a functioning alcoholic, my delusions became my reality. Being sober close to 9 months, some distorted memories pop up and I'm like "woah, what was I thinking?!"
So we are on better terms now. Inching forward day by day. 
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I've yet to some amends done, a very special person that I broke her windows
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I also made my amends with my family as a whole really but many give me the funny looks still. I know it's my fault
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So my dad was a big part of my 4 step because there were times in my childhood that he was abusive and for many years I held resentment against him for the choices he made when I was a kid and teenager, even as an adult. During my 4 step I saw my part and let those resentments go. About a month ago I went to visit him to make amends to clean my side of the street. And I always felt like shame was something I needed to make amends for. My dad told me he was never ashamed of me and shame was never something he felt due to my addiction. There's still a lot to rebuild and I don't know if I'll ever be the daddy's girl I once was (during the times he wasn't abusing me) but our relationship is already better than the nonexistent one we had less than a year ago. It's not often I need help financially but when I do, I know I can ask my dad and he knows I'll pay it back right away (something that was almost never the case before/during my addiction). Its kinda hard for me when my family says they're proud of me, I kinda feel like they shouldn't be because this is what I should've been doing all along. But I also understand why they're proud of me and I'm proud of myself for finding a new way to live and sticking to it!
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I love this so much. Recognizing mistakes, taking responsibility, changing for the better, apologizing, forgiveness, and restoration. This makes me so happy. And who is cutting onions in here?
It'll take them time. But remember, you're changing for the better. Don't let their funny looks discourage you.
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Thanks. Lol cutting onions is a painful cry though.