I am struggling to figure out who I am sober. It feels like I'm constantly in my head and second guessing myself. I can't seem to connect with people, even my boyfriend, and feel like a deer in the headlights all the time. I feel like a shell of a person. I'm working the steps and I know it's early in recovery ..I guess I'm wondering if anyone else has felt this and does it get better?
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Thank you for sharing! Yes I plan on getting into therapy when my insurance starts in September. Maybe that will help. AA meetings help me a lot but I don't have a lot of trauma. Just a lot of hate for myself, which I am working on.
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Yes I have experienced this, after using alcohol to take the edge off, using it to connect with my partner, I was pretty lost as to who I was and how I can be in relationship with other people. I do spend a lot of time on my own, and I have become ok with that (most of the time).
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you hang in there Samantha and yes reach out for help. That’s what I’m doing so I can talk things through because it’s hard to talk to people that are close to you. They are tired of hearing the same things and if we could just talk it out with someoneand work it out and keep reaching out, we will get out of our heads and out of the problem and into the solution
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this disease is insane and every time we put one in us, we get more insane and it takes a long time four our brain to reprogram itself sometimes I just read my Bible and all my other books for self-help. It’s so important to get out of our heads keep reaching out or pick up the phone.
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I didn’t think I had trauma either. There’s a reason you drank or used and therapy will help you discover why. It could be trauma you didn’t even know was trauma
I am just 2 years sober and this is still my focus - who am I? I found that patience is extremely important for decision making before you blurt out your emotions. Learning how to socialize sober is part of it. As is learning to think positively about yourself and actually DOING something that makes you feel like you are growing into a new you! You can be the person you want to be…it’s a fresh and exciting start…good luck❣️
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Yes it does get better, I’ve felt the same way and still do on occasions. Just keep moving forward and find things to do to stay out of your head. Changes are hard sometimes but necessary. Glad you’re here!
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