My bf and I have been together for three years. I love coke and he loves everything but mainly Fetty and Alcohol and he’s in treatment and now PHP 3 hrs away and at a sle. He has like a whole other life with friends and meetings and whatnot and I just started going to N.A. to find more community. Anyone have this ? Like he will be back home in April but been there like 70 days. He’s dealing with trauma, legal stuff and being sober and I just feel alone and stuff. We are normally together 24/7. Any tips?
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First and foremost, stick to your program. Even if you just started going to NA, it will help if you keep with it. Second off, as someone who has been through multiple “attached at the hip” relationships, I would use this time for self discovery. It’s nice to have someone there 24/7 but as you’re experiencing now it can’t always be that way. That’s why it’s good to learn what keeps you going when they’re gone (at work,visiting family, or in treatment) that’s really all I can offer from my own experiences. Hopefully some others can provide more insight.
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Yea just sucks having to be apart and he’s in a sle and away. The hardest for me is I’m still doing my life like when he was here( but sober) and he’s gone and it’s been since 12/23 ( with seeing him for 1 hr) on 12/27 and 1/21(for 3 hrs). He comes home 4/1, and I go to work he’s thriving in meetings and stuff which he needs but I want to do it together. I’m just so tired of having to be apart and not have my best friend. He’s. Three hour drive away
Prayer and talking to God he sees far down the road
We broke up. He needs to focus on legal stuff, his trauma work, and to stay sober
I’m having a rough time wanting to be sober though
I would focus on my own sobriety and let him handle his own, apart if that's how it had to be.