When we have resentments most of the time it has something to do with us. Whether we're jealous or upset or anything in between we have to find a way to get over it,maybe go and address the problem or talk to whoever so you don't lose your sobriety
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Thank you! Luckily I have no desire to drink over it. Just something I gotta work through
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Let me tell you about resentments. One day, you will wake up sober and realize that every single slight, every single grievance you have with anyone in the world is absolutely meaningless in the scheme of things. No matter how bad they did you, no one cares. You have to let it go and realize no one beat you, no one won, we are all going to the same place and if they are not already there you can hold the door when they get there shortly. No one gets out alive, so put a smile on your face, breathe the fresh air, and get out in the sunshine. Your happiness is your responsibility, and brooding over a slight is useless no matter how you feel.
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I don’t know what your resentment is. I’m guessing it’s something someone’s done to you.
I carried this for years for ex partners , friends etc.
Don’t get mad at me for saying this. It’s tough love
You have to step back and ask.
Why and how did you let it get to this point that these people did this.
Cause I’m sure you saw the red flags 
but didn’t listen.
And like myself I kept handing these people the scissors expecting different results.
Also remember if someone says they are sorry with no change. It’s manipulation.
There is a lot of shitty people out there that see us as weak.
Most of us are empaths and think others are wired like we are Nope.
Vampires are real.
When my mom died she said to me the devil will appear in your life many many times , and he’s not red with horns holding. Pitchfork.
He’s drugs and alcohol , and when we are weak and out defenses are down we leave the front door open for them.
They have no empathy.
They are there to take us down.
So, the question is.
How did you let these people in ?
What are your boundaries ?
It’s empowering when you finally say no to people.
Then watch them react like a 3 year old toddler not getting the toy they want.
So just like Glenda said to Dorthy in the wizard of oz. You’ve had the answer the whole time. 
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Well. First of all. You have to realize that you have one. . In step 1. The word LIVES IS plural not singular. ... Meaning we have 5 LIVES.. 1.. SPIRITUAL..2.MENTAL..3..PHYSICAL...EMPLOYEE/BUSINESS AND FINANCIAL LIFE. WE HAVE 5 LIVES SO IF WE HAVE BEEN DRINKING for any length of time. WE are prone to have Resentments. I personally did 40 MONTHS OF DRUG AND ALCOHOL TREATMENT in my 20s and diagnosed as a MIDDLE STAGE WETBRAIN ALCOHOLIC WITH A DRUG problem. . I HAD a Few Resentments. Just trust the PROCESS of RECOVERY. AND WHEN YOU GET TO THE POINT OF DISCUSSION ABOUT YOUR RESENTMENTS. YOU WILL HAVE DONE SOME WORK SO YOU CAN SEE WHERE YOU ARE AT FAULT.. ALWAYS LOOKING AT CLEANING UP OUR SIDE OF THE STREET... YOU CAN DO THIS
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Hey Alyssa. I had a big problem with resentment. It’s really hard to let things go. I read something one day that kinda put it into perspective for me.
Resentment is like taking poison and hoping it harms someone else.
It hurts you, not the person you are harboring resentment against.
Try to let it go. Easier said than done of course, I know. Have a great day and I wish you the best☀️
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I know some people may not agree with me but when I had resentments, either towards someone or something, I wrote a letter. I never sent them out because some people don’t listen. I just wrote it down to get it off my chest. I don’t like to have resentment build up inside because for me, I take it out on others. It may seem like a simple thing to do, but try it out and see if it works for you.
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Get a sponsor....
That's unfortunate. There may be options online? I can only speak for myself, but I tried doing a 4th step on my own.... It put me in a real bad place. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I hope your experience is better than mine.
In the early days, newcomers would be run through step 9 in a day....
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Resentment used to beat me up. I let everything go and asked for forgiveness. Been happy for the past 29 years and still going strong. Keep the faith.
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