I know this is something you work through while going through the steps, but how did/do you guys deal with resentments before you get to that step? I’m still on step one but there’s been one specific thing eating at me lately. I still have a hard time sharing in group settings and it seems like such a silly, ungrateful thing to be upset about but I’m definitely upset nonetheless.
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There’s an app called My Spiritual Toolkit that has spot-check inventories you can do. I highly recommend it
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Have you talked with your sponsor about it? Maybe get some direction to deal with it now instead of letting it eat at you
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Ooh thank you I’ll check it out!
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Yeah she’s a bit busy these days so I may have to reach out to some other women in my home group but I definitely need to talk to someone about it
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If your sponsor is too busy and you’re in dire need than I would look into another sponsor …. It’s ok to fire a sponsor and although not common you can have 2 sponsors. Either way I’d have a talk with your current sponsor and let them know that you need them especially this early in your recovery. 
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Yeah I have to get over my fear of “confrontation” lol.
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It’s a process and you will learn to have patience I promise if you stick to it
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Getting sober just ain't about quitting drugs when your all in with it it's nothing but making changes to almost everything . It's like being a new person almost . .
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Working on it
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Talking and sharing is the best way to work through it! Feel free to talk to me if you need a listening ear!
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Thank you so much 
Good old reaentments! We all have resentments, you have to fully be honest to yourself while dealing with resentments. Try not to leave any out. Also daily inventory helps out. I have been journaling everyday for almost a year now. I find less resentments if I do self inventory and journaling and FREE! Amends and resentments were my 2 hardest things to do in recovery. 1-write down everyone you resent (even yourself) 2- write down what you resent in each and every one of them 3- then in that moment, write down how it makes you feel 4- remind yourself these resentments are possibly part of why you used 5-Remember, you can have everything they have and then some 6- Free yourself from resentment as it will control you. Finally 7- You ARE THE BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF without all this resentment
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Your are not alone. Remember your share will help someone else more than it will help you
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Finding out my part in the resentment and forgiveness. The freedom is in the forgiveness
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I would like to add I agree with Allen depending on the situation it may just be time to let go . That all depends and is case by case though . I'm learning how to deal with them myself . Better luck to you on that one
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For me going through the steps and working a thorough 4th step for me to realize the part I’ve played in my resentments. The way I dealt with it before I got to step 4 was I didn’t really deal with it. I stayed angry and it was a struggle everyday. My best suggestion is forgiveness. Forgive them and forgive yourself.
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Plainly stating your needs is not confrontational. Doing it with compassion means caring for their feelings and meeting your needs.
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Eh I screamed and process the painful emotions, I let myself feel the hurt. I also came to believe in soul contracts and found my lesson and eventually thanked most of them. There have been obstacles later in recovery that I struggled to let go of the pain but I’m greatful bc I have learned to process and learned so much about our nervous system so even that god has used to allow me to learn.
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Thank you everyone for your amazing advice!