Roommates

I'm getting really tired of cleaning up after my roommates especially in the kitchen. I have brought it up on several occasions and they will pick up after themselves for maybe one or two days then it is right back to old behaviors. I used to just clean up after them but then I felt they would just be trashy and lazy bc they knew I would just end up doing it. I am tired of it and it really throws off my morning when I have to clean the kitchen and living area before I can even cook my breakfast. I feel at this point it's really f'ing with my recovery and morning routine. I have trouble meditating and being mindful bc I'm so irritated.
Don't know what to do. I'm in sober living and you would think they would be better than that.
Do I move units? Talk to them again? Do I get them in trouble with the house manager? Im not one to complain or "taddle" on people but this is ridiculous.

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Anything they used to cook: pots, pans, utensils. They leave the stove splattered in grease and spills. Food on the floor. Dishes in the sink for over 3 days at a time, usually more, so there is no room in the sink to even wash dishes. They leave food out, and leave things on the counter or table instead of throwing them away.
It's disgusting.
I couldn't take it anymore and talked with a house manager and they are moving me to a different unit.

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This is the nature of humans. I totally understand your frustration. In college I lived in a co-op. It was the same thing, and like you, I asked people to clean up constantly. One day, I was done doing everyone's dishes so I put up a note that said if it didn't change I was going to throw all the dirty dishes away. And that's what I did. Everyone was pissed and it stayed clean for a short while. Now I amd a Laboratory Manager and I work with a lot of engineers -same thing. Filthy pigs. Midwestern man children who are so used to having their moms and wives cleaning up after them.

It is just one of those things we can't change.

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Sounds like you have it well in hand. … aaand you were so upset before, hmmmm, I think you are rocking this sober thing! Congratulations! Test #quadriliion complete.

I too live in a sober living house. It is not as bad as yours but I feel your pain and disgust. This living environment has been great for my recovery but not the best way to live. Move to another location if you need this for recovery.