My daughter who is 18 in a very controlling relationship this man doesn’t have a job nothing they’ve been together two months now she’s pregnant and when I asked her when he was going to get a job, she decided to move out while I was sleeping. I’ve almost got two years clean, but I really wanted to relapse I mean his family does drugs and that’s all she seems to wanna be around but yet I’m the bad guy
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If ever so More then now you need your sobriety ,to be there when she falls to help your grandchild if your daughter starts using or use if harder stuff now is the time you should be proud and be able to say my love Ill be a solid rock when you or that child need me . Be proud be humble be a. Good sober support for your child .
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I’m sorry your going through this Samantha. Early sobriety is tough. A good resource I think in this situation is Coda. Co dependence anonymous. Depending on where you live, you may have in person meetings in your area. I do most of my meetings on zoom. But I person is better for the fellowship.
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That is a lot. I’m sorry for your heartache i can only imagine the pain. I would incourage you to find local recovery in your area it could be a very big help to have people in your town you can get a warm hug and a smile from while you are going through this. It’s also likely they can relate and have some solid experience strength and Hope for you. Sooner than later this relationship is likely to hit a wall and when it does your daughter will need her mama. Keep that in focus as you move forward. It’s not fair and hurts but you can do this and it will likely strengthen your relationship with your daughter when you are there with open arms.
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Give her your advice and opinion about things love her unconditionally and that's it don't let her choices be an excuse for using we use because that's what we choose we have the resources meetings and all kinds of stay sober options but if we don't use them it can be harder to stay sober and in our addicted brains it doesn't take much God loves you
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I'm so sorry to hear this Samantha. Deep down you know that being sober is the only way to really handle this the right way I'm sure. My heart goes out to you , your daughter, and your grandchild.
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