Sad that it took me so long to see someone for who they were. I'm glad to be free of that relationship. Some nights, it haunts me the depths of he*l I went and the years I wasted. I can only go forward, but tonight, a random pang of grief came up.
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It happens to me by times (I am not at my first clean and sober life attempt) and I see it as part of the recovery. What happened happened and you can't change it. You were a different person at a different time of your life. My personal opinion is that you can change how you perceive the past and how you take control of your future. 
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I have certainly been there. I was in a relationship for far too long and not getting the things I needed. I live in a small town so I see him often. We are cordial but sometimes when I see the way he is treating his new GF it hurts that I didn’t get that care and attention.
It’s hard but just remember, you’re better for it. And there are going to be really hard days/nights but those will get farther apart until they’re gone.
You e got this. You are so incredibly strong!
Thanks, I know everything you're saying is true. Just having a night. I can't even imagine having to see my ex... I moved far away so I didn't have to. Keep in mind that I'm sure your ex wasn't all bad, and there was a honeymoon phase. Otherwise, you probably wouldn't have given him a chance. What you see isn't always what you get, either. They're really good at appearing one way in public. Boy, howdy. That must be really hard to see regardless. You're freaking strong, too, if you're able to handle that with grace.
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Thank you. That’s very sweet. It’s definitely not easy but I learned a lot about myself from being in and leaving that relationship. I try to hold on to who I’ve become and recognize that I’m better for the experience.
You are so right though. They are very good at being someone different in public. It can be maddening
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Felt this. I hope you’re feeling better today. Sounds like you choose yourself and doing that you can never be wrong.
Much better day. I think I was just feeling sad in general because then I had a sad af dream lol 
Feeelings? Lol
I'm sorry you're sad, hoping you're feeling more cherry now.
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