My wife and I have been pretty heavy drinkers on the daily since we met. Functioning alcoholics. Well lately I’ve really been trying to get sober, but it’s really hard when I’m with her 24/7 and she drinks every single day. I’m scared this is going to divide us and pull us apart. Anyone else married to someone that drinks and can make it work?
It is going to be a hard row to hoe but it can be done. You will have to build a network outside of your spouse to succeed. It may not work but make sure you put in the work. That way if it doesn't you know you can leave with no regrets.
Yes I quit drinking cold turkey honestly not by choice but my husband iand myself drink a lot. It’s hard because he drinks everyday and if I smell it I really crave it so I tend to stay away from him so I’m not tempted. It has put a damper on us feel super lonely but I’m starting to see a huge difference in myself and don’t want to ever drink again. It’s hard I’m hoping my sobriety doesn’t end our marriage but we don’t hang out as often as we used to
My wife drinks. She is by no way a heavy drinker. Social would be a stretch. The thing we found though is set boundaries.. both of you and RESPECT them. Support getting sober is necessary as well. I am sorry to say but splitting up very well be in the future. Only time will tell. It happens a lot when one person gets sober and the other doesn’t. Have open HONEST conversations and make decisions that are informed, not rash jump the gun decisions. Good luck to you. I hope peace can be found.
Thank you!! We definitely will have those conversations, and she is very supportive but I will need an outside community as well. I do have some close friends that check in but will need a sober community as well. You’re right though, only time will tell! Thanks again!
My husband and I go back and forth constantly about this issue but at the end of the day my sobriety is the most important thing to me in my life so it’s up to him whether he chooses to be in my life or not. At least in the beginning he won’t be able to drink around me
You got this Lorrie, similar situation here and happy to work on myself
I was married to an alcoholic too.. I had to get sober because of health reasons.. I was going blind.. blood sugar.. it was a bad situation.. he didn’t like me not drinking with him.. and I didn’t like him being a drunk.. it continued to get worse.. so I finally had to leave.. I hope y’all can work it out.. but only time will tell.. but you don’t need to drink just because she does.. maybe you can get her to stop along with you..
My husband drinks but not daily. He drinks less now that I'm sober. Hopefully she will see how much better you feel and try it too.