Give me tips on how you built your self esteem
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I just try to be proud of myself. Tell myself im doing great. That other people wish they could do this. That im strong. That i become a better version of myself ODAAT.
As time passes, itll come more naturally. As the clean version of yourself becomes more familiar.
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A couple things that have helped me:
- positive self talk like Kevin said
- I wrote several quotes on my mirror so I see them every time I’m in there. (Not imposing anything here) one is ‘make him proud’ which refers to my higher power and also my Gpa who is 92 years young
. The other is sobriety is a ‘superpower’ - credit to my boy Eminem 
- I’ve also tried to get outside as much as possible and do some form of exercise (most times it’s simple push up and curl routine…nothing fancy but gets the blood flowing)
I hope you find some things that work for you!!
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Take one day at a time
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Write down 3 things you’s say to someone you love. Then look in the mirror and say them to yourself every day.
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The most helpful thing for me in the first year or so was surrounding myself with others in recovery, along with my therapist and counselors in my IOP. While my inner critic and those I hurt the most needed serious time to change their thinking about me, my support network saw my efforts and progress for what they were and cheered me on. Eventually I started to see myself the way they saw me, as did a lot of the people I’d hurt.
Better self talk, and I really try to be up on my daily gratitude about myself. Little steps to repair all that’s broken
It takes time, and gentle patience. Living 'in the moment' stops memories of the past from stealing my present (corny, I know, but notice that it's called "the present". It's a gift.
And try to notice small joys.
Pick up and learn a no hobby. Sounds basic and simple but it’s helped me
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Don’t focus on what you consider to be your imperfections. Some of those may be what someone else considers beautiful about you.
Accept those things you cannot change.
Work on things you need too.
The fact that you are her is the truth that you belong.
You got this we believe in you
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Thank on yall for the suggestions, I greatly appreciate them all. I got a index card on a spiral thing and every day I write a new one and read them in the mirror multiple times a day. I've noticed my negative self talk has decreased and the negative self talk I think others are doing about me has gone away completely. Thank you all again.
Self-esteem comes from self-confidence. Believe in yourself believe in God he will help you. There’s only one of you and he made you stay in the present. Don’t wallow over the past and look forward one day at a time. Just keep telling yourself that you love yourself.
Work out, do nice things with no expectations and take care of your health
Like Jason said, write self positive affirmations on them and stick them on your bathroom mirror, so everyday you see them and read them, you are strong, you are kind, you are smart, you are amazing, you are self confident, you are beautiful, you are giving, you lift ppl up, you are grateful, you are etc etc etc. The list will be long uif you think about it. Try it, it does help a lot.