Does anyone here struggle with addiction in "the bedroom" genuine questions
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What’s this mean?
Resh eggzactly.
Tyler what are you referring to?
Don't dump and run on us.
A lot of things can be addicting. If you mean lust/porn/etc. then there are many, and there’s support meetings for those too. It’s not surprising. A lot of us struggled with codependency, isolation, loneliness, and the substances were just bandaids. We have to retrain how we think when it comes to quick rewards.
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I waited until I was 1 year sober, as suggested to me to hook up. Even then, I wasn't ready for what happened next. For me, I always needed something to take me out of the way I was feeling. Being intimate sober was off the charts, and sober being an alcoholic and addict I chased that great feeling and just got hurt. Sober, careful who you are hooking up with
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Well I think I can guess what he means. Or at least something to do with hooking up
some clarity would help.
No I meant like actual addiction to that action and basically everything surrounding it
There is a dopamine rush with it, and chasing that next dopamine hit can be addicting. Think of an alcoholic who can’t stop thinking about their next drink, and a s*x addict who can’t stop thinking about their next hookup or watching porn. It’s addictive behavior in both scenarios, so the short answer is yes.
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Absolutely I used the bedroom to feel love, I wasn’t loving correctly or for the right reasons. I am work in progress so I have learned to let my Higher Power handle things when I have little experience. Prayer and meditation
Ok I think we all had addict behavior in a relationship. I always enjoyed being high to being intimate. I do believe there’s things I would like to be different but I am single and that’s ok too.
Totally valid question. The core of addiction — whether it’s alcohol, drugs, s3x, or anything else, usually comes down to chasing relief, control, or escape. That “need” starts running the show. The high, the hit, the hook-up… it becomes the solution.
The patterns look different, but underneath is similar wiring. Obsession. Compulsion. Shame.
It’s not about what you’re addicted to, it’s how it’s affecting your life.
Are you looking for support with this? Or just trying to open the convo? Either way, glad you brought it up.
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I mean I guess im still trying to figure out if I even need help. I mean it's not affecting any parts of my life and it's under control but sometimes I just feel like I have to get off 7 or 8 times at a time before I feel the desired relief
I've been there... I ended up feeling the same way that I felt when I used obsessing compulsive just wanting more and couldn't wait until I did it again. I had to stop myself talk to my sponsor and work 12 steps on what I was feeling and thinking and trying to gain from that behavior when I healed admitted and became whole over all the things that came up I'm now several years abstinent and very careful