Shame and guilt

I am 26 also , I’m so sorry this happened . The great thing about recovery is you can always start again . One day at a time . Don’t beat yourself up to much about it . If you ever need someone to talk to my inbox is open :heart: You got this . Hope you feel better soon :sparkles:

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After a slip, please understand that you are not your addiction.
You are not unworthy of love or happiness. I had (many) drinks 25 days ago, after 6 months sober. The guilt is horrible.
Recovery is complicated and so are you. Even so, it can be very difficult to love yourself while going through it.
When we have slips, it feels like we are starting from the ground up all over again, especially when you're experiencing intense feelings over what has happened.
Know with certainty that you're worth that start. Every new start is actually a win, not a loss. Slips are part of recovery. You don't have to be perfect, you just need to keep going.
Trust your process and keep putting 1 foot in front of the other. Change does not happen in one day. It is a series of one day at a time. And for today, I will not drink.

Be kind to yourself. Your shame is a measure of your character. The more shame you feel, the stronger your character. But it’s a double edged sword. Your shame can keep you in addiction and selfish behavior. Shame can be overwhelming. Shame almost destroyed me. Keep practicing your sobriety. I practice sobriety every day just like I practiced drinking everyday. Beat back the shame with steady, daily progress. If you slip, which most of us do, recognize that shame is driven by the demon of alcohol, Al-Kul. The body eating spirit which is where all spirits, whiskey, rum, you name it, all of them come from. Alcohol, by design, extracts the essence or spirit of the material it is introduced to. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with your self. Love yourself. I hope you have a blessed day!

Hey Jess the only place we can start our journey is where we are. We will always make mistakes, and for some of is drinking is one of them. Try not to beat yourself up; shame is a lie and tool of the devil, and will only hold back your growth. Remember that over drinking is something that stands between you and what you want, but the picture of what you want is much bigger than just being sober. That being said, being sober is the best way to be equipped to grow in the was we want to. One day at a time sister, and baby steps. You can (and will) do this!

Hi, Jess. I just tried liking, loving your response.
Dunno if it is my phone or what?…anyway!

How are you feeling right now?

I am going to come back later and read each comment…this is a caring, compassionate community and I hope that you know that so, so many of us have been where you are right now.

I used to kinda roll my eyes in regards to certain comments post relapsing, things like-“ this is a hiccup / keep going! “…while now I am gonna be that person I used to kinda roll my eyes at and relay to you to right, keep going!

This is by no means the end. I do not take relapse lightly while by no means…is this the end of sobriety for you.

Feel all of the hellish feelings and use this relapse as information in relation to how you do not want to feel again!
I send love.