My dear daughter, she came and shamed me for not trying to apologize to her more for my drinking behavior and how much I (my disease) don’t have any remorse… oh so wrong. At a weak point, it’s like they want me to fail and numb back up… such a hard lesson and idk if she even wants to be a part of my life anymore
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You need to try and work things out
Or give it time...it sux we hurt those we love
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I will say having a 24yr old daughter who came to me about my drinking and the effects it had on her and all the things, it does hurt to hear hard but true disappointments that we cause, ways we have embarrassed them, anger etc HOWEVER you cannot own her feelings, you can apologize and in my opinion not over and over because the best apology you can truly give is continued changed behavior and you should tell her that while you understand she has her hurts and they are valid YOU are not able to accept verbal abuse because you have given yourself lots and you have apologized and now you have to take care of you and keep on with your sobriety. Again it's just my opinion but I'll be praying for you 🩶
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I have a wife that still shows me videos and reminds me of everything and I have been sober for over 2 years. Sometimes the damage is too traumatic for others and you won’t be forgiven. That’s something they have to work out for themselves. At times, We the offenders can’t help the victim. I’m sorry you’re going through this but I have learned that all you can do is be better today for yourself. I had to accept that I can’t change the past. Some forgive and some don’t but you don’t have to keep paying for it. Live your best life and make sure you use this pain as a lesson rather than an anchor.
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That’s rough. I’ve been there. However, we cannot expect those we have injured to pat us on the back simply because we have stopped killing ourselves and are behaving like normal humans. Also, we need to avoid jumping into selfishness to use it as an excuse to drink again and cause more harm.
A living amends is the best we can do at times. One day at a time living a sober life.
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This really hit. We all have hurt our families so much and it’s so hard for them to trust again. I would try everything to talk to your daughter and show her your serious. I was having a real hard time with my daughter and at 3 yrs and almost 8 months, we are finally on a better path. She told me she hated me before. Sometimes families are the hardest to show that we changed. But it will happen stay the course. Suggest Alanon to her.
I know I have absolutely no right to tell anyone who has been put through h3ll by my drinking when they should forgive me. We leave a wake of such damage in the lives of our loved ones. All I can do is sincerely make amends, stop the behavior, and keep going.
It's easy to feel sorry for ourselves. It's also dangerous.
Hard lessons are hard because we make them that way. Time changes perception. Just keep focusing on why sobriety is the most important thing.
My heart goes out to Mike……
Please hang in there, brother. as long as you get further away from the drink or the drugs. Closer to the ninth step promises.
Then the closer you get to total freedom from your past.
Are you working the steps with a sponsor?

My sponsor had told me that her son said to her, "mom, I hated you" and her response to him was, "you know what? I hated me too. Now what are we going to do from here?"
If your child is still holding onto resentment, it sounds like maybe you can suggest for her to attend an Al-Anon meeting. If you've already done the work and forgiven yourself, maybe it's time for her to get a new outlook on finding how to let go. I'm sure it's not easy for her but you can't hold onto that forget it it's going to destroy her
Dang man, try to let it roll off your shoulders like rain. We can't control anyone but ourself
I totally agree with you Matt.
Joshua! Great reply!! We can change vans apologize; It’s up to them. Moving forward!