She was the one

Struggling Help
#1

Yesterday, the doorbell went off, and there she was. Back again.
The one i drank with. The one i fought with. The one i love so much it hurts.To say i was speechless would be accurate. I just cried a lot.
Closure can be good. She wants to meet again at a coffee shop today. So do i, actually.
I know this is dangerous ground, but like a moth to a flame im flying in.

Any advice?

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#2

Brother I'm 59 yrs old married28 yrs. Very bad choice let her go she is toxic!!!

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#3

One plus one equals jail in my experience in this area

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#4

Love and pain get tangled fast when drinking is part of it. You already see it’s dangerous ground, and that awareness is a way out. Protect your recovery at all times. We’re here with you

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#5

Cut her loose bro.

#6

You said, "this is dangerous ground". Why would you proceed??

#7

I guess if it is love maybe feel her out but if she isn’t in a different place and you are , the chance she will cross over to the light is very dim so u better be cautious . I don’t play around with my sobriety too much , it took me my entire life to get where I am in my 40th day. Good luck to you I hope you find what you are truly looking for. Lord bless you and her.

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#8

@steven174802 .... So what was the outcome. Did you fly into the flame or did you cut it loose.

#9

Is she working on her recovery? Or
Is she willing to start NOW?
All the hard work you’ve put in to your sobriety is not worth rekindling a toxic relationship.

#10

Let go of anything, everything and anyone that doesn’t support your number one priorty

#11

Stay grounded and be careful

#12

As addicts it’s not just substances we misuse. Speaking for myself here with my experience, I will use whatever I can to keep from feeling vulnerable. Relationships, chores, work, substances, games, Facebook. Gardening! Anything.

My problem is my hand reaching out for any fig leaf I can find to hide myself behind.

When I’m here tempted by a familiar comfort, especially when the catch phrase includes, “yah but I love …..”

I remind myself that love is patient and kind.. to me. Love doesn’t boast, nor confuse. Love lifts up and encourages. Love is dignity respect and anonymous.

May you seek out your Higher Power. May you remember steps 1, 2, and 3.

We are powerless when it comes to our drugs of choice. It always will reward us with unmanageable people place and things.

We came to realize there is a Power greater than ourselves that restores us to sane and stable living.

We have submitted our will and our life to God’s loving care.

May we all continue in these steps toward a spiritual awakening and embracing our true selves.

#13

Stay away