I think it's to soon for both of you....she needs to work on her recovery as well as you....I started dating and it ended up a disaster and now I'm trying to recover from that as well as my addiction....it takes a long time to be able to make a relationship work when your still trying to work on yourself
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Kyle you say you've been dating her for 6 months yet your sobriety tracker says 10 days. The numbers don't match.
Nonetheless, there is no way in the freaking world that anyone at both your stages of recovery should even think about dating.
Dude, you're trying to get sober and so is she. If you had any self respect and respect for her, you'd turn and run. Your sobriety comes first, as does hers. Have you talked to your sponsor about this?
You're both phuqed up and need to unphuq yourselves first before you can even think about phuqing up each other. If you don't know that you're phuqed up then you're really phuqed up.
Take it from an OG ... don't do it.
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If she truly loves she will do what she has to do to better herself and make it threw her recovery so she can have stable and better relationship with you and take things one day at time sometimes one second at time and don't worry so much about the future we can't control that worry about you and what you can control right now and bettering yourself and staying clean everything will work out in the end just trust in God.. keep your head up and have faith and pray you might wanna try going to church that helps me a lot in my recovery... Don't stress yourself out about things you can not control ok just everything is gonna be ok God always has a plan for everyone we just have to have faith in him and trust in him
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Thank you Ashley
Your welcome
Message me anytime if you need someone to talk to ok
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Okay, so here's what happened. We started dating July 4th and we had an issue in our relationship due to her failing a drug test through her probation. So she got locked up for a month back in November and when she was trying to get out. I helped her find a sobriety. Program for her to enter.I got her into the program.She is now there and is doing better.I myself have been server now for over a week.And she has been server for sixty days. We had a miscarriage back in late December and I think that she is working on herself as well. As I.
And she says she needs space because. She's working on herself.I sometimes text her too much during the day.And it annoys her but she says that she wants to be with me and that she just needs some space.
You need to step away and work on you and you only. Trust me it would be the best thing you'll do for the relationship.
I'm watching one of my sponsees go through the same thing. It was suggested of him to step away from the situation and work on himself. She even told him to back off. He didn't and she OD'd on heroin. She made it perfectly clear that she needed space. He didn't honor her wishes.
"She wants to be with me and that she just needs some space" Stop being a freaking door Matt. Just be you saying what she allegedly said.. Your both phuqed up.
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I almost had a child with her. It would of been my first. Her 2nd she lost her first child to the system and I know she wants another. She says she wants it with me like seriously says she wants it with me. I need to find something to occupy my time so I'm not always thinking about her. Bc that's all I do. Is think about her. I know she loves me and I do too. It's just hard being away from her. I also get jealous bc I know there's guys out there hitting on her. Especially when she's at meetings. I had a friend tell me she turned a guy down that tried to give her his number one time since she's been in recovery. So I guess I just need to chill out and let things happen. We also lived together for the first six months we dated so all of my belongings are still at her house that we used to live in.
OK thank you
To the comment that you should wait one to two years before pursuing any relationship.. focus on yourself and your growth in recovery. I am also in the same positionā¦ although it has been an option I am choosing to build myself to be the best version I can be
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I absolutely agree with you. You couldn't have said it better. My sponsor told me any and everything I put before my sobriety I will fail. I have to work on me and put everything else in the back seat. I know I only have 8 months and a long way to go but when I put that in my head I've been successful in my sobriety so far. If I was single and not married a relationship would be way down the list for me. Just my opinion
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Not trying to be cold at all but real talk it will not work I see now that Iām almost three years clean why they say two addicts can not be together it never works out boy were they sooo right 
u can live her think about her worry for her etc but 100% YOU need to put yourself first!!! focus on you and your sobriety only!!!!!!!in the near future if youāre both clean and you have the willpower and your higher power allows, you guys to get reunited so be it but for right now, itās not gonna work. Focus on you only I went through this for 15 years with my kids, father please listen to take my advice!! God bless hope everything works out for u!
āShould I pursue a relationship with a girl Iāve been dating for 6 months?ā In a word, No !
(So much baggage already)