Should i pursue a relationship with this girl that ive

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#1

Should i pursue a relationship with this girl that ive been dating for 6 months that just got admitted into a rehab for 6 months?

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#2

They say you should at least wait 1 year to 2 years before entering a relationship but shouldn't get into a relationship at only 6 months into your sobriety you need to be able to focus on yourself right maybe stay friends with her until your further into recorevy that way you don't overwhelm yourself and can stay focus what is important

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#3

She's in rehab not me.

#4

I'm not in rehab

#5

That might depend on how long you've been clean and how strong you are with your own program, but she needs as much support as you can give her.

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#6

OK to everyone that has read this wrong. I am not in rehab!!!!! Me and Andrea started dating back in July of last year. We both started using drugs when we met. I have been clean for month now and she ended up going into a 6 month rehab. She is saying that she needs space to focus on herself.

#7

I'm asking the lady's does I need space to focus on myself mean that she's moving on from me. Or that she just needs space to focus on herself.

#8

I agree 10000%

#9

What do you agree too lol?

#10

What exactly do you agree too

#11

My grandma told me something when I was a child I wish I would have learned before now. If it causes doubt and co fusion it is not from God so steer clear.

#12

You have to be right with God and yourself before you can be any good for anyone else

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#13

It's hard to k own what's going through her head but I would guess that she probably just wants space to focus on herself and her rwcovery to heal and grow. You should take the time to heal and strengthen your recovery so when she gets out you can be a better version of yourself for her

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#14

Dont go against your better judgement and give her the time she needs for rehab

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#15

I think you should be working on yourself... you can always support her in her recovery but walk softly.. my son relapsed after a long time once he got involved with a lady friend.. just a suggestion.. good luck and God bless you!!!:sunflower:

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#16

I’d take her at her word and give her space so she can focus on herself, especially since she’s in rehab. When I first became sober, I needed space.

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#17

She has probably been told in rehab that she needs a year after treatment before she is in a relationship. If she’s truly working the program, then yes, she does need space.

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#18

Thank you to everyone

#19

Absolutely not. She's got to love herself first before she can love someone else.

#20

So tell me this bc I'm worried she will grow apart from me. We had a miscarriage about 3 weeks ago she was 10bweeks pregnant. She says she would love to have my first child with her. And she tells me she loves me after every conversation we have . Should I be worried that she will leave me or not. She talks like she's not going anywhere she even tells me she's not she just says that she needs to work on herself.