“Should I stay or should I go”

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#41

Brenn, having been through rehab myself, I know how scary it can be. I'm not going to lie, it takes a few days to adjust, but once you do, it opens into an experience full of brotherhood and healing of the mind, body, and spirit.

While it can seem like a prison sentence at first, try to remember that the time you are there is a drop in the bucket compared to an entire beautiful life you can have ahead of you. For an alcoholic like me, there is no question, "we are fighting to stay alive" when we go to treatment, and I don't want to die.

There is no shame in going to rehab. It is a show of strength and courage that you are ready to fight to get healthy. Afterward, you can walk back into your normal life with your head held high.

Feel free to friend me if you ever want to talk about it.

#42

Best decision I ever made! Keep pushing, in the end it will all be worth it. The peace, the happiness that comes with it. It works if you work it. Surrender and put your trust in your higher power and everything will fall into place.

#43

Brenn,
I was 47 sober when I had to go to a treatment facility. I did a 30 day residential program that changed my sobriety, my life and gave me exactly what I needed. The treatment facility wasn’t out of state but it was 1-1/2 hours away.
Ask your higher power for the courage and strength to make the choice.
I believe it will be very helpful for you and your sobriety.
Good lucky brother! I’ll pray for you

#44

Your addict/alcoholic mind, the fear that led you to where you’re at, is still doing its job. Let it go, it’s not serving you. Leave EVERYTHING behind and come home feeling revived. Work your behind off everyday in rehab. Jump in with an OPEN Mind (yours is confused) Shush, Listen, and Let the process run it’s course. You’re going to love how you feel bro. I never learned so much about myself in the countless personal development workshops I paid for. Serenity awaits, YOU!

#45

I think you should do what’s best for you at the moment, what’s best for your sobriety - your recovery. If that’s moving across country babe then you should do it! It’s probably a beautiful place, a gift to you. Take it, take full advantage of it. Get your peace back. :sparkles::heart:

#46

I actually did just that.

#47

I went to rehab close to home solely because I live in south Florida, the recovery capital of the world. But I did make A LOT of great friends that stayed that were from all the way across America and now permanently live here and love it because the recovery community is so strong. One was a mechanical engineer and had a great job back home but just found one doing the same work here and is doing amazing. I wish you all the best and like some have said, it is a tough adjustment from what I've heard but so worth it in the end. Take the leap, let go and let God. :pray:t3::muscle:t3:

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#48

Yes, I left NC to go to rehab in NJ back in 2000. Truth is, the life I was living wasn’t that hard to leave behind while I took care of myself.

#49

I am struggling with being away from home after relapsing after 11 years. Im only 2 hours away but where im at does not feel like home. I completed treatment and moved into a sober house. I wasn't sure if i should stay here or go back home until my daughter texted me this:
but i just wanted to tell you how proud i am of you for actually doing the work to become sober again. i know it's hard, and you're missing a lot but this is the greatest gift you could give me or kyle for christmas, easter and our birthdays. you got this dad. i love you

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#50

Go!

#51

Man. What a crazy week it’s been . Thank you EVERYONE who has continued to support this post and shared personal stories to help guide this decision. I have been through rehab before but it’s been many years. That time it was a geographical change as well. But just a couple hours away from where I was. After being there, I knew I was never going to back to the town I was. And It still is the best decision I ever made. This time it’s going to be that situation but on steroids. I have no family and the little support I do have will obvs remain here. Traveling 1800 miles to a place ive never been and know no one will be challenging but familiar. I finalized the sale of one of my vehicles and got literally almost its entire current value to help with bills back home until short term disability kicks in. Will be driving it to a carvana meet up next Saturday! After that I can let my HR person know I need fmla and start that process. It’s getting more real by the day. Thank you everyone! These stories and show of support has been driving me to continue these efforts. Thank you!!!!!! :heart::heart::heart::heart::heart::heart:

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