Drank last night and broke my 10 days of sobriety. I honestly hate myself right now and its hard to even find the strength to cope. I'm so f***ing lost, man. Please god give me the strength. I'm really hoping for some support in all this. I need a sponsor extremely bad, i know I'll have to do some seeking and find one but, for now, please someone reach out. My life depends on support right now and I'm truly just lost. I can't take this anymore and I need help. Please. 
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Try again. For me, the miracle in my life was that I kept trying to get sober even when I relapsed. Extreme resiliency.
Check out the cycle of shame/guilt too, and see where you are in that cycle.
The only amount of time I really count is years. Especially the first year. I don't think focusing on number of days sober ever helped me much. I was always worried about losing them. Instead, I realized all I have to do is stay sober today.
AA can be helpful, AA can also be an addiction that is unhealthy. It just depends on how it's being used.
When I understood more about the brainchemistry of addiction--- when I realized that drinking/using today would literally increase my chances of depression and anxiety for the next few months, it became easier to abstain. I wanted the release, but I didn't want to do the time. 
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I'm considering it a fresh start and I'm truly going to give this my all. My life depends on it at this point. I'll take your advice and try to use it in my recovery, thank you so much.
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Man I learned something about myself from every single relapse. Some of them were crucial moments of understanding. I started to become more gentle with myself in regards to relapse (this is in reference to the cycle of shame too). And also genuinely curious about why, now that I really was trying and wanted sobriety, I could not stay sober. I got angry too, like frustrated of course.....but then I got curious about it. Some things started clicking. The fear was always that I would be unable to find happiness in sobriety. Welp, that is entirely possible to do--- once I experienced happiness in sobriety and saw that, my using career was cut short.
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Yeah, the shame and guilt is just eating me alive right now. This gives me some perspective and helps ease my mind that things will be ok so I appreciate that. I will get through this, I just have to endure it. No negotiation there. Still doesn't make it any easier, however. I'm just tired of myself right now. Tired of treating me as if I'm an incredibly terrible person. Literally poisoning myself, only to be depressed and stressed the next day. I'm going to use this feeling as fuel and start fresh. I know I can abstain at least for today and that's all that matters right now.
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I focused on one hour one day at a time when I relapsed I kept trying again no guilt because I got back up to try again I am human and so are you keep trying
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I have been sober for 21/2yrs but did have a drink once in while on special events I am able to stop now keep trying
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Trevor, one thing I learned in my Soberity is to give yourself GRACE! You need to believe in yourself and that you can do it!! Dude you did 10days!!!That's Huge!! Feel your Success and that achievement rather than shaming yourself. God loves you where you're at right now. He knows your future and has your plan. He knows you are gonna fall after 10 days. But he also knows you're gonna pick yourself back up and keep going!! I fell off many, many times but once I was able to realize the world of Soberity is not a punishment. It was a gift of Freedom & Self Love!! Prayers for you Trevor
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Just do the next good thing, brother. Keep coming back!
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As we learn in recovery, the devil comes to steal killing destroy. But Ohio power says that we have life and we have life more abundantly. Go back and start at the beginning. The first step, surrender yourself and method you're powerless and start back over again. You have more time ahead of you than you make. Think God didn't give you those 10 days for you to lose the knowledge and the wisdom that you use to achieve those 10 days with precious. Hide him in your heart that you shall not send against yourself and your higher power again. For you are walking the walking salvation and you're walking the walk of recovery. That's why it's called recovery.Because you have to continue recover yourself.Whether it's falling back into addiction or your mindset or defects of character stand firm.My sister don't give up your faith.But Jesus is Lord and he is God.And he will deliver you from that body of death.That you're dealing with god bless you
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I relapsed quite a few times during the first few months of my "recovery journey", and beat myself up every time. You didn't just wake up one day and decide to become addicted, it took time (just like recovery). I've learned (after many months) to be a lot more gentle with myself. The thing that has helped me the most is SUD (substance abuse disorder) counseling. The place I go to counseling for also offers different classes to take regarding substance abuse and trauma. It has taken me a long time to figure out how addiction works, and why I kept going back, but once I opened myself up to learning more about it, the more things made sense. This app has also been tremendously helpful, everyone is so kind and supportive.
Also, there are grants to cover those who want counseling but don't have insurance. I highly recommend trying to find SUD counseling, I can't stress enough how much it has helped me.
Sending hugs and good vibes to you, I have faith that you can do this too!! 
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Please try to forgive yourself & move on. Show yourself some grace & speak kindly to yourself. Beating yourself up just doesn’t work! When I mess up & decide to drink, I call it a “data point” & I mine that data for clues as to why I wanted to drink again. What were your emotions at that time? If you decide to drink again then do it mindfully with curiosity as to why you got that craving in the first place. The only way to the other side is THROUGH so, unfortunately, we just have to sit through our emotions 
The 1st thing you should do is look up Annie Grace … she’s the absolute best in the field of sobriety. Read her books, listen to her podcasts & download her app for free on your phone. It’s called This Naked Mind Companion App where you will get support. You CAN do this!!! Good luck
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Thank you all, the kind words and advice goes a long way. I'm working through it, slowly but surely.. I won't give up.
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Hi Trevor what is your phone number?
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Praying for you brother. No shame in the relapse - only shame is not
Coming back! Hit a meeting tonight and pick up a 24 hour chip, I believe in you!!
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I added you as a friend but it's not letting me message you. I think you have to add me back first. I'll send you my phone number through messages