Stay strong!! 
Sorry for your pain. Next! He was not worthy of you….🏄♂️
At some point in my journey, I had someone tell me that the things that don’t work out are simply God’s way of saying “that was not meant for me”. I recently jumped back out into the dating world after a divorce and I experienced something similar. It hurt for a few days but it didn’t kill me and I didn’t drink over it. It’s just one of those things I struggle to accept but deep down I know that it wasn’t meant for me. It’s easier said than done though.
Wow. So you were going to lose everything you gained for some guy in a gym. Please don’t give up your sobriety for someone who was playing with your emotions. Your better than that. This is why they say no new relationships in the first year for this reason. This may have been a blessing that he ghosted you. Sobriety has to come first and foremost. The time to meet someone will happen. Plus does this man drink? You don’t need that now because he will definitely get you to drink before anything then your back in that rotten dark place. Please stay strong. Dump the dam bottle down the drain. You can do this you don’t need a guy from a gym. Best wishes for continued sobriety
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You’re doing an outstanding job by handling this issue the “only way you personally feel you’re able to right now”! By focusing on you and what you truly want and need first of all, and then by focusing on the moment you’re in (each hour) and not allowing your addiction to talk you into being dishonest with yourself or others (your sponsor lol). I hope you’re aware of just how proud you should be of yourself each hour, each day you awake to your well earned beautiful, fresh new life living in your sobriety,… because you deserve to, all those who get through these and many more issues that we are faced with day in and out in our sobriety deserve to pat ourselves on the backs. With the help and support we receive from being part of this amazing community and program of recovery,… We most be sincerely grateful of the strength we possess to choose our sobriety over the false comfort of our addictions manipulative behavior and/temptations.🫶
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You're very welcome and if you ever need a motivational story to remind you just how bad things can get if you continue down the irreversible path of self-destruction, just let me know I'd be happy to share my story with you. Carry on smartly and I promise that although hardship will always continue to rear its ugly head from time to time the blessings will flow more and more!
It has been said that expectation is the ruin of all relationships. I find that incredibly truthful. Going into any relationship it must be understood that both parties will undoubtedly fail one another. It is the desire to compromise be honest and gain momentum together that is able to overcome these failures. God places people in our lives for a Time and for a reason. When that time comes to an end it is better to realize it and accept it for what it is and move on then to get stuck on it and get depressed or to hang on to a dead relationship. Trust me!
Hang in there. If you can make it through the day, you can make it. An hour at a time is great.
Just don’t drink no matter what!
Your recovery comes first. From my experience and from what I’ve gathered, putting anything in front of our recovery, we lose it.
Praying for you
Pain IS the touchstone of progress.