So am having problems finding someone and it’s getting annoying,frustrating, and upsetting cause I feel like seeing others happy is not helping and actually it’s getting so bad that I turned down going to my friends house cause they having couples night and don’t have anyone having dark thoughts and thinking that I am going to just suffer and not be happy cause can’t do anything right it seems like when it comes to having someone cause really depressed now and upset and agitated and just worthless and don’t care right now and have nothing right now to love!!!!
Hang in there Christian, you have great worth. Try loving yourself first, doing nice things for yourself and your friends. I hope you feel better soon.
You have to love yourself first, or you’ll never find anyone. As Joyce Meyer recently said, “you can’t give something away that you don’t have…” - regarding self-love.
For years - in active addiction - I was in the same boat. Settling for women of questionable moral fabric, becoming emotionally codependent. Because I didn’t want to be alone, but didn’t love myself. Slow down, learn who you are sober, And pray to the God of your understanding to put someone in your path when He thinks you’re ready. Best of luck, and enjoy the journey.
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Christian, one thing I’ve always thought is that you have to be good within and for yourself before you can be good for someone else. You need to know yourself and be full of quiet confidence before you go looking for a partner.
My ex-husband has now been married five times. He doesn’t know how to be alone, and be with himself and at peace. My son even tells me this now.
I have been divorced since 1997, and I have dated here and there. But if I feel like I am struggling emotionally, or lonely, or angry and pissed off at the world, I will take myself off the dating scene until I get a better outlook, and I feel happy, well-adjusted, and willing to have an outward outlook. Because in a relationship, you have to look outward and take care of others. Love needs your attention when you say you want yo love others. 
I can’t stand this cause it’s been a life long problem and never had the confidence in myself about anything and feel the same today cause family is draining me and won’t let me have a life cause I am always doing something for someone else and it never ends!!!!….I am having doubts about everything I am at this point in my life!!!…I don’t want to live anymore cause I live in He11 and hate my life and my family!!!!…they had me start this drinking life!!!!…
Can’t love myself cause I hate what I see in myself cause I continue to rely on my family and not happy and never have I been happy in this Fd up life and hate myself for staying in this life !!!!
I so totally agree. Pete, you are good with words.
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You gotta quit feeling sorry for yourself bro. That for sure is not going to attract any female partner whatsoever. Man up - find a way to provide. Come up with a hustle if you have to. But being down and feeling sorry for yourself - you’re not gonna attract anybody but one of Honey Boo-boo‘s relatives. There’s something you can do. And if you can’t figure it out, pray on it. 
You are a child of God. You are loved. You are forgiven. You were not put on this earth for meaningless nothing. You have a purpose - find it. You are responsible for your own happiness. Wake up every morning and make the decision that you are going to be happy
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I agree with Thomas here -you have to learn to love yourself first before you can love another, and for the other to love you.
Know your worth, Christian! You’ve got this!
Christian, I want to share one of my favorite quotes with you.
“Courage is not the absence of fear, but the acknowledgment of it. “
Be confident, by being sober for a year+, you’ve accomplished where so many have failed.
Know your accomplishments, recognize them daily and own them.
You got this!
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