I’ve been there. A few times. You own the sober time you gained and no one can take that away. Think of this as a reboot just for today. 
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I love your 10-80-10 rule!
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Now you are armed with the knowledge of what went wrong. Every day you were sober is not lost. You earned those days!
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How are you doing, Leila?
Relapses happen and yes, they completely s-ck.
Hoping that you can give yourself some grace.
You reached out and shared…that is a big deal, I feel like.
Wishing you well.
You are capable of remaining sober.
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You just need to jump on the wagon and don't look back yesterday is gone tomorrow isn't promised and only thing that matters is right now so stop don't use anything and do something positive idol hand are the devil's playground keep busy I'm pulling for you and need a message that you won't and are trying you can do it kiddo
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Find whatever option works for you. I was a stepper for years because I thought it was the only option. Turns out there are many options. I don't wake up and tell myself I am an alcoholic. I wake up and tell myself I am sober today. Helped me a lot to change the focus.
Beating ourselves up doesn't get us anywhere. Proud you opened up and are wanting to try again. Do what's best for you. Deep inside you know you.
Nothing is gone. If you were a food junky I would tell you to just put away the oreos. Just put away the oreos and get back on the horse.
What is that?
Forgive yourself.
I relapsed so many times it was pitiful! But each time I learned something. Mostly that I needed to make my sobriety the #1 priority in my life. Over family, over work, over romance & friends.
Hence SLIP, sobriety losing its priority.
With sobriety I can have all, without sobriety I have nothing.
You can do this! 1 minute at a time. Decide to go all in.
I’ll friend request you now. Dm me anytime.
Just checking in. How are you, Leila?
You now understand that alcohol creates an in manageble life FOR YOU.
So now you also know that alone your life is
“un managed”.
There is no need to feel alone. Most of us are not one time wonders. It took the other night to see bottom.
So what’s the plan?
-Get around people of like mind and make you feel safe.
-Find someone who’s been doing it longer than you and ask them if it would be OK to shadow them.
-Find a place to go EVERY day for an hour or two that is specific to your no drinking life.
Do this for 90 days. It becomes habit. You’ll start to build a community, and doing things other than drinking WILL become habit.
-Create a real list. Pencil to paper list of things that make you feel happy.
-Same list put down the things that make you feel “down”.
As simple as it sounds create a week that takes care of all those things. When all else fails sit on your hands and say out loud “I’m worth too much. Drinking now would be me cheapening my value. I will not do that
to myself.
I promise you’ll make a
day doing this. You’ll make a week doing this and you’ll look forward to tomorrow.
Know that Brent in Fl is on your side. He’s there 24/7 for you. You are never bothering me so eliminate that excuse.
Liv ya kiddo,
Brent S
St Pete, Fl
OG2OT
Focus 10% on the past, 10% on the future, and 80% on the present.
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