So hard to get out of my head , im trying to Let go & Let god , but selfwill takes over & I think I can control the outcome.
I have someone from out of town , coming to stay with me , who drinks . I am weeks away from my 1 year sober. I fear I will be tempted, or spend the whole time arguing
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Tell him your sober & tell him no drinking in your house! Put your foot down. Keep your sobriety.
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Prioritize yourself, above all else. Including your sobriety.
If you have doubts and concerns that is can be a good thing. Keeping your guard up and being vigilant is good.
Its okay to fight for somethings. Leave if you need to. Ask for help if you need to. Or ask the person to leave.
Learning to say NO comes with practice.
I slipped a day before my first time making it to 1 year.
Things went sideways leading up to it and I may not have felt I deserved anything good. So sabotaged myself (again).
I learned there is another rock bottom that's much lower down. Spent another decade there dancing with the dead.
I look forward to seeing you complete your 1 year soon.
Jo, smart move letting your sober brothers and sisters know what is happening and how you’re feeling.
I suggest in person meetings daily/nightly while your friend is visiting. Staying in constant contact with your sober friends and sponsor.
Jo, I had to and still make my sobriety my number one priority in life. Over finance, romance, friends and even family. Sober I can have it all. Without sobriety I get nothing but miserable hangovers.
I’m here if you want to talk
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@jo324003 Here is where YOU need to set the boundaries with this individual. If he/she/it can't respect the fact that you're trying to get sober loop tells me that they have zero respect for you. Stop being a doormat.
You have the choice. Either let it stay and be the doormat or be the strongest you can be and stand your ground.
No 
or 
is worth giving up your sobriety comes first.