So i had 11 months when i relapsed, i had just moved from mn to nd to manage a store we have here in nd. Its on the indian reservation. Well when i moved here i started dateing the man i ended up relapsing with. We fought, did drugs, he quit his job and i lost mine. I lost my apartment and split up from him for a week and went to Wisconsin yo my moms.he went to go get high and be eith other woman. We both agreed to get sober again so I decided to go back to nd to be with him and try to get on my feet and have a relationdhip with him. Hes in sober living and im living in his house now. I got a dui, lost my license and im feeling shitty. We tried going to meetings together, but because hes disrespectful to me, i ended up walking out of them twice now! Hes from here, its a small town. Everyone knows him. Now he forbids me from going to meetings with him and tells me to do them online. I told him i need meetings too, im new here, have no friends, he dont actually live with me so im alone all the time. I told him i need an outlet. But he wont budge. Says that me walking out was disrespectful to him and i said him leaving me alone to go sit elsewhere is disrespectful to me. Its petty. I drove 2 states to make it work and he cant even support me at a meeting together. He claims that the jail time over his head is why he dont want me to go with him. I feel like its a cop out. That way he dosent have to be bothered with me. Its petty immature and ridiculous. If he cant act right, im allowed to seperate myself. My problem is, that hed rather split us up, sacrifice my recover as apposed to acting kindly twords me in a meeting. Its humiliating and selfish.
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You have had so much time in sobriety you should be so proud of yourself. You can do this again. Remember your worth and don’t let other people take that away. I think your partner is not treating you right. You are better off leaving him for now. Maybe head back to where you were before or back to your Mom’s? Get back into your recovery have some sober time. Who knows what the future holds for the two of you but he seems very controlling and not supportive of what you need to stay sober. It’s hard enough getting/staying sober the drama and disrespect in your relationship is not going to help. Just remember you are most important…you matter♥️
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