So I have been nice with my kids mother(14 year relationship) for 5 months. I am 6months clean. I sleep over every other weekend and this weekend is my son's birthday. Her friend from Maine came for one night to visit her family and is sleeping here. She came drinking and smoking weed but that's not my issue. Apparently I am a secret and we arent together so my kids mother treated me not like she has just cuz her friend is here. She has not validated one of my feelings and I am so hurt. I drank 2 wine coolers when they went to bed and I'm sitting here hurt and hating myself. Feeling so unimportant. I'm torn
Time to reset boundaries. Don’t swear the wine coolers… it happens. You owned it, move on. I would wait until the “friend” leaves and have a sit down with the ex. Explain calmly your feelings, and why you are hurt. Make sure to set your own expectations and boundaries with her. I give you huge props on co parenting…it can be very trying. But remember YOUR sobriety is the most important thing right now, and if you don’t get the support needed you need to step back from that person. Good luck man.
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Thank you for your intelligent response. Last night maybe it was just attention I was seeking but this morning has been more clear.
Anytime. Glad to hear the fog is lifting.