So, I know I can’t stop. But I’m so scared I won’t be able to have fun and be crazy without alcohol. How do I meet friends or tell people? I know I have a problem. I am more than happy to admit but I’m afraid of how stopping with affect my life.
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Good morning Olivia, I too was at that point of my drinking career. I thought I would not as funny sober. It actually turns out I really was that funny drunk. I was an asshole. Being sober for me had opened new doors. I’ve met someone wonderful friends and I’m way more outgoing then I’ve ever been in my entire life. I have control of myself sober.
Fear is one thing that use to control my life. I’m not in control anymore as I’ve turned my will and my life over to the care of my Higher Power of my understanding, G0d.
I’ve learned that Alcohol kills our pancreas, which is the Organ that also breakdown alcohol. That’s a double edge sword we are playing with.
Ask yourself this, is my life unmanageable due to my drinking? Do I have any consequences from my drinking? Do I drink to have fun? Do I drink alone? Do I have a good understanding of who I am? Do I love me?
You’re at the right place to get some knowledge.
I’m in Alcoholics Anonymous. This program of AA has saved my life. The 12 steps have made me a better person today. Not only towards others but to myself. No more negative self talk.
Keep coming back! Read others posts on here. Ask questions.
You got this. Have a wonderful day filled with love and peace within my friend. 
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Meetings is a good start place. Then perhaps a couple geared towards sober people with your interests.
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as a kid in his mid 20s living in a college town where nobody does anything but go DT to the bars every weekend all weekend, i know how you’re feeling. i honestly didn’t think staying sober would be possible let alone having fun sober. but it is 100% possible. the longer you stay sober the more your true spirit starts to find it’s light and you don’t need that alcohol to battle the things like social anxiety and being spontaneous. it takes a little bit but the more you find yourself, the easier it is to laugh at the little things and have fun doing the bare minimum. and the best part is you don’t wake up with a hangover!! 
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We have a skewed view of who we are when drunk. I used to listen to a call-in show on the radio. It was all fun and games type of show. One day this guy called in roaring drunk. He wasn’t funny, but you can tell he thought he was. He was just sad. The talk show host just humored him along and when he hung up said; “that was one of our former co-workers here at the radio station. It sounds like he’s losing his battle with alcohol” and he moved on with the show. I happened to be drunk myself that day. His comment sobered me up at that moment and it was like he was speaking to me. I realized I didn’t want to be that sad drunk. It was a turning point that led to my eventual sobriety.
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I don’t know how old you are but as a female I can tell you that you’re going to be really pissed at yourself for knowingly allowing alcohol to f your life up. Alcohol is a progressive disease. I luckily do not have any medical problems from my drinking but I have a ton of personal and professional problems to deal with and correct now.
Every day that you let your addiction continue to control your life are days you are going to have to make up. We may be able to function or think we’re functioning as alcoholics but we’re not. The fun you think you’re having is fake. Alcohol is playing a trick on you and TRICKS ARE FOR KIDS!
Get right and do it ASAP. It’s more fun than you know!
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If you get some sober time, you will inevitably be around drunk people (while sober). It is likely that you will see how stupid people are when they are drunk and realize you weren’t really having as much fun as you thought. You know that sleepwalking scene in Step Brothers? That’s how I see drunk people now. Hanging out with recovery people is so much more cool.
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Don’t forget, we are all ex-ragers! We’re fun people. Besides, alcohol does way more harm than good. Ages us, weakens our immune systems, and makes our lives unmanageable. I look better than I ever have and I have plenty of fun! Things in life feel and are much better. Being with that special someone, going to the beach, working out with no hangover, driving with no worries. It gets better 
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I totally understand what you're saying. But I've had Sobriety and it was Great. I recently relapsed when I lost my Mother to Covid. Very Sad and I know she would not be happy about my relapsing .
You can learn to have fun without it! Just a different kind of crazy!