So I’m feeling awkward about something and need opinions. I went to a meeting tonight. My sponsor knew I was going to it. She knew probably yesterday that she was going to it. She didn’t offer me a ride or invite me to dinner with a fellow addict after. They both openly talked about it in front of me and completely ignored me. Now I didn’t invite myself because that’s rude. I just feel awkward and sad realizing my sponsor is just my sponsor and doesn’t think about me beyond the mere 30 minutes of time she gives me a week. I absolutely no friends in NA. Anytime I ask others to hang out. I’m told no. Everytime I’ve asked for assistance getting to meetings that I can’t get to by bus, I’m told no. I don’t understand. I don’t expect to be handed things or given handouts but I’ve been in NA since last summer and have made zero long lasting connections with other women. I know I’m a being a bit insecure about this. But my question is this, Is it normal to be on the outside to this degree? No one calls me. No one texts me. Yes I’m speaking at a thing later this month but I had to sorta get someone to agree that I’m okay to do it. I just feel. Awkward and alone.
I don’t hang out with my sponsor either. And really don’t see or talk to people outside the rooms. Maybe fire your sponsor and ask someone else. We are a different bunch. Making friends sober is challenging to say the least. Keep your head up.
Happened to me as well and still is .
People literally laughed in my face when I told them I wanted to get sober.
I think it’s important to find an active hobby to take up your time even if it’s alone. Maybe a spin class or something like orange theory or yoga
Most of the people that go to those types of things are sober and health freaks and the other plus is you should be able to find a local class close by with not that much travel time.
If that’s not your thing try and create a routine surrounding the things you like. Possibly going to a local library every few days for walking to a local ice cream shop every Friday. Friends will come and when they do they want to be there 
i’ve always been great at making friends but struggle keeping them!! i used drugs to make “connections” with people for years. you are definitely not the odd one out. I went to AA for a year and the only “friends” i made were with people who weren’t ready for sobriety and i guess i wasn’t either but we would relapse together. i met 3 separate people and 3 times relapsed with someone from AA!!! I think the program is great for people but for me i do drugs with people and i don’t rlly have a drug of choice it’s like whatever the other person wants to do a lot of…..
Anyhoo- i have made good friends by volunteering at places, taking art classes, and even at eating at places near my work a lot and get to know the workers there and become close friends lol !! I am an extrovert and love talking so making friends is the easy part it’s the work that goes into it that i’ve practiced in sobriety. Friendships are work !
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Sorry to hear your struggling with these feelings. For me it all starts with feeling disconnected. It leads to feeling different, uncomfortable, lonely, awkward, etc. If there’s one thing I learned from this app, it’s that 9 out of 10 of us suffer from feeling disconnected (loneliness, depression, social anxiety). That means the rooms of AA/NA or any recovery program are filled with people who are also struggling with this. We kinda suffer together, and learn how to overcome this together. While you feel all alone sometimes, you are definitely not alone. Work on feeling connected thru prayer and meditation. This may not resolve your transportation or sponsor issue, but it will help you feel more comfortable. As others have said above, you can chat me up anytime
Had the same issue years ago and was very disappointed…
I agree with you!! People are not perfect I had the exact same issue and was totally left out from dinner plans but given leftovers from my sponcer sucks…
, it's not normal to feel so excluded and unsupported in your recovery journey. It's understandable that you feel sad and awkward about the situation with your sponsor and the other members of the meeting. It's important to remember that everyone in recovery is at a different stage in their journey, and some people may not be as open to forming connections as others.
However, it's also important to acknowledge that you have the right to seek support and connection in your recovery process. If you feel like your current support system is not meeting your needs, it might be helpful to reach out to other members or attend different meetings to see if you can find a better fit. You can also consider talking to your sponsor about your feelings and concerns, and see if there are any ways that you can work together to strengthen your relationship and support network.
Remember that recovery is a journey, and it's normal to experience ups and downs along the way. Don't give up on yourself or your recovery, and keep reaching out for the support that you need.
I’m sorry you’re feeling that way. I felt the same at first. It was only after I decided to suit up and show up day in and day out that the connections came. There are always folks coming into the rooms briefly. So some “old timers” wait a bit to see if you’re going to stay.
Right wrong or indifferent that happens. Just find a home group (a meeting once a week that you like, that you never miss). Then attend as many meetings in between as you can. That worked for me, I think it would work for you.
How about online meetings? I love them. You find a sponsor in the online group and still take the bus to local meetings.
I've isolated myself for so long that I'm now at a point I'm craving any type of connection or friendship...It can be devastating when the few new connections you make don't consider you an option. ( I know exactly how you feel )
I've never had a great experience with AA/NA meetings. For whatever reason I just didn't mesh with the people allle there. Once I found some other type of meeting recovery activities really changed my opinions of "meetings".
This is so relatable, since I’ve went sober, most of my friendships have gone dark / are not very present. I’m not close with anyone anymore 2 years into sobriety and it’s really hard when all my friends I do have around drink alcohol. I wish I had some sober friends. I go to NA meetings too and am not meeting anyone on a friendship level. It can feel nice to go and be there, but I’m looking for friendships / relationships, which just aren’t there. Hang in there
I am so sorry this has been your experience. I remember when I first started going to meetings, I was really shy and didn’t really put myself out there to make connections. How many meetings do you go to a week? I found that when I started exploring and going to more meetings, I met more women who had what I wanted. I also met some who didn’t. I stick with the women who have what I want, and go up to them after the meeting to talk and ask for their number. I’ve never been turned down and have built some great friendships from this. We are a program of connection but we are also addicts and have our issues. I wonder if you could try different meetings and maybe meet some other sober women you connect better with? I have definitely had some women flake on me, end up being not very soberly behaved, etc. I stay away from those relationships. Keep looking for the ones who have what you want. And pray on it. Give it up to the higher power of your understanding.
Also, re: your sponsor - kinda odd. At least from my experience. My sponsor includes me in everything she does socially after meetings. Maybe it’s time to find a new sponsor.
I've isolated myself for so long that I'm now at a point I'm craving any type of connection or friendship...It can be devastating when the few new connections you make don't consider you an option. ( I know exactly how you feel )
I've never had a great experience with AA/NA meetings. For whatever reason I just didn't mesh with the people there. Once I found some other type of meeting recovery activities really changed my opinions of "meetings".
I struggle with this every day. I've lost almost all my friends and pushed away the rest. I've never felt so lonely in my life. That's partially why I downloaded the app. I just want someone I can click with that won't judge a thing and appreciate the growth.
I’m sorry that was your experience in na. I just celebrated one yr sober and Aa has been a great support but I wouldn’t consider the individuals there my best friends. Alcoholics/addicts have a lot of character defects so it can be difficult but I find people definitely care and are supportive. Find a great home group /and or sponsor! Best luck . Reach out if you like
Really a sponsor is to guide you through the steps!!
I myself sponsor a number of people and I’m not trying to be mean or ugly but I’m close to a couple of my sponsees but not all the main thing is to get through the steps!!
Don’t worry too much about your sponsor liking you or wanting to hang out with you work the steps you can make friends later!!
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It's not you, so don't feel bad about it. People can be a strange lot. And people are different everywhere you go. We run into all kinds of people in these rooms, and just because somebody shows up for a meeting doesn't mean that they're practicing what they are preaching.
People are also very lazy when they get sober. Who knows what was going on between your fellow addict and your sponsor. Maybe they needed to talk about something in private and didn't need anybody else listening.
I've known many people who are coming to the program, and it's nothing more to them than just a social club. They're not really doing what's suggested and so they never really change. And when they stop drinking, they become very cheap with money when the basket is passed.
Just keep coming back to the rooms and be very selective about who you label as your friends. Real friends will go beyond the call of duty to help you out.
And remember that feeling lonely is only a state of mind. This goes away the more we become comfortable in our own skin. I like having people around me, but I don't have to have people around me.
I'm very well content with reading a book or renting an airplane and going on a short trip or whatever I'm in the mood for at that moment.
I don't know how long you've had this sponsor but if you don't feel comfortable with the sponsor it's never too late to change.
And remember, it's not you!
My home group is a virtual meeting. Which I’m of service too. I met my sponsor there when she used to attend the morning one.
The meetings never worked for me but I have met and heard from several people that attend and it works wonders for them. I always felt left out in those rooms. I found a Peer Recovery specialist through my local community center and when I was just starting in recovery that was great! We met once a week for coffee or food and she worked around my schedule. She also called/texted to check on me and I could communicate with her when I needed to. I would recommend you finding a PRS in your area or maybe look into a new sponsor. I don’t think anyone means to play favorites at meetings, I just think we are all trying to work the program and we have to find our best support where we can.