So I’m going to Phoenix in a couple of days for a week. And this would be my first sober vacation. I’m going solo because I plan on moving there this summer. I’m just terrified of drinking on the vacation and going to a bar by myself because I love new adventures and get curious about the area! Has anyone else been through this with a solo trip how do you stop yourself?
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This is my worry right now. I’m going on a girls trip to SF in a few weeks and they are heavy drinkers. I’m on a good streak and want to keep going, but I’m nervous that it will be far too hard to not join in. I love an airport bar glass of Prosecco and a drink on the plane😵💫
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I am in the same boat! I have wanted to travel since I stopped drinking but don't want to be in a hotel by myself with nothing to do at night and a bar close by. Actually wanted to go to Phoenix as well for the weekend but decided I'm not ready yet.
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I did my first solo trip last summer to Vegas. I was tempted multiple time but where ever I was at I just left and went somewhere else. I also always ordered water and I had no problem telling a bartender that I was just over two years sober and to not serve me anything with alcohol in it even if I order it. I got a few weird look for that. I survived 5 days in Vegas though and am better for it. I basically became my own defense by telling bartenders now to serve me anything alcoholic
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If you are in AA they have Great meetings in Phoenix, Tempe, Scottsdale chandler. I grew up in AZ Find a meet and go there first. Know what meetings you are going to on your trip. That is making a sobriety plan before your trip. Keeps us ahead of our disease. Know your danger spots…. Being alone and going to a bar. Go get your nail done or a massage instead. Reprogram the thinking 
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That’s so weird they would give you a look for being sober 
Society is screwed 
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Natalie
Loosid will only allow me to post 2 links to web addresses. I’m giving you the phone number and meeting list for the Phoenix
Intergroup first:
Salt River Intergroup,Inc.
Phoenix , Arizona
http://www.aaphoenix.org
Phone:(602) 264-1341
Helpline:(602) 264-1341
And the East Valley Intergroup for cities in the eastern valley:
East Valley Intergroup Inc
Mesa , Arizona
http://www.aamesaaz.org
Phone:1 (480) 827-1905
Helpline:(480) 834-9033
You can find all your AA needs as well calling and possibly arranging for a female to meet you at a meeting through these sites.
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Natalie here are a couple of more Intergroup in the west valley, and flagstaff areas:
Agua Fria Intergroup
Peoria , Arizona
Phone:(623) 937-7836
Helpline:(623) 937-7770
Flagstaff Intergroup Central Office
Flagstaff , Arizona
Phone:(928) 779-3569
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Natalie.. I live in Peoria... Phoenix has a ton of AA meetings going on round the clock.. I have never felt out of place at any of these meetings. I've been to meetings in poor and affluent neighborhoods, and it's all the same goal of sobriety at all of them! If you need to talk, message me! Enjoy your trip!
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You know yourself. Are you going to see your friends? Are you going to check in with them? Would you offer them emotional support if they needed? Or are you hoping to get drunk? We can have fun in sobriety. I've danced at bars, I've sung karaoke at bars and met people there. But, by God's Grace only. I met a sponsor who walked me through the steps as written in the Big book. I wasn't just saying what everyone else said at the tables hoping I'd magically get "it". I don't go to bars regularly and know with every fiber of my being that one drink will destroy me. It will take everything I love about me and all the gifts and abilities AA has gifted me. I will be a rage full, judgemental, completely lost and empty soul - a ghost. I will loose all my friends and family and the trust and hope God and AA gives me. I attempted suicide on multiple occasions and I will die either crazy or by my own hand. As a alcoholic and addict I know my Hope lies in AA and Sobriety.
You can go. But be totally honest with a person you know won't pull their punches. I've gotten to live in four different states in sobriety. I've met great people who were normies. I've lived in the "grey" areas and bright healthy light. if you can honestly say to yourself you aren't going to drink and that you aren't secretly hoping you're going to drink - go. If you're just fearful that's natural. Drink and drugs are literally poison to us.
You can always leave your friends for a meeting. Every city has them. SF has many great meetings. You can even just talk via phone with your sponsor or a local AA person. True friends would never ever put their fun over your needs. True friends will want your sobriety over everything else.
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Well Natalie do you have a sponsor? Do you think you are spiritually fit? And do you feel the need to drink on any given day?
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I'm currently on a sober trip in Phoenix that ends in 2 days. It's been great. Surrounded myself with people and no one questioned my reluctance to drink. Lots to do here that doesn't require alcohol or drugs.
Nice what did you do?
Some of the highlights so far, spent a day going up to tortilla flats and exploring that area. Went to some good restaurants, culinary dropout, arrogant butcher. There's tons of doing. Catching a Suns game tonight and a museum this afternoon
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Dont drink,Cxl the trip , if you go it will be the hardest weekend of your whole life to not drink so why would you do that you've already been there a million times leave it be put it in the past move forward come on Franny
I understand! But I’m moving there lol. So I mean I have no choice
Man o man, my company asked me to move to Phoenix this year and I said no way because of the this problems in Phoenix is a very new kind of American city it's where you're either rich or your poor biker meth head
Just cuzyiu are moving there doesnt mean you have to go hang with King Alcohol... who are you Queen Alcohol?
I think Arizona is beautiful! There’s going to be problems in every city. I live in Chicago there’s tons of hands and violence, I feel like it’s all about the actions you choose vs the location
There are alot of meetings and sober things to do here in Phoenix! Plus the weather is beautiful. Be true to yourself and even on vacation, one day at a time.