So, I've been sober for 99 days while my girlfriend has been off and on drinking. She told me she wanted to quit, and I know not everyone can just drop it cold turcky like I could. I'm not sure if she was just saying that to appease me or truthful about it. So I'm asking what can I do or say to help her regain the want to become sober. I've already denied her a certain extracurricular activity for the day as she is already drinking. Her and her mom helped me get sober, I love her, and that's not a word I use sparingly. I know I can't control her or her drinking, and I can't stand the thought of leaving her. Any ideas?
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First I’d like to just give you a big congratulations on your recovery im sure that was a big step remind yourself of that 
If I could share something with you it would be you can love her and be there “ guidance “ love and understanding with keeping your recovery first ultimately at the end of the day it will have to be her decision god bless and I pray she finds her way maybe bring her to a meeting have a blessed day 
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Congrats and are you going to aa meetings?
Maybe invite her to go with you? If she starts meetings it might help her stay sober one day at a time and even work the program.
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Have you tried alanon? Alanon helped me when I was struggling to accept my loved ones choices. Truth is there’s not really much we can do other than be supportive which it sounds like you are. We can’t convince them are hurry the process. Just keep the focus on your recovery and be a solid person for them. Learn the difference between enabling and loving. Best thing we can do for our loved ones is help ourselves first and show them understanding for what they are going through. Good luck.
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Leading by example is the best way to show her that sobriety is better - however, set a time limit for yourself - if she doesn’t come around in X amount of time, you may need to end the relationship for your own sake
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Congrats on 99 days. It’s tough when someone you love is still in the struggle. You can’t control her journey, but you can keep protecting your own. You’re doing the right thing by setting boundaries. Keep going strong, and don’t forget to take care of your heart too.
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I'm proud you're being the man in the relationship. You see the problem and want to get rid of it, for the both of you. So God helped me out, and I'm not pushing religion on ya. Psalms 119:105. Says your word is a lamp to my feet and the light to my path. If you can't find the right program or you don't like meetings. Google a lot of drinking scripts and share with each other. I'm here to help
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