I am 12 days in and feel completely lost. All of my friends drink, and every weekend is just another temptation. I need to make sober friends/companions to help me get through this… and I would also like to help others because I know how shitty this is at the start. I do believe just talking to somebody might help me not feel so alone. How have you all gotten through some of the toughest day of sobriety- particularly early on?
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Early on?
I’ve been through unimaginable withdrawals where I literally thought I was going to throw my bowels out of my throat.
It is a noble thing that you are asking for.
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I want to help as well.
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Any ideas? I think most of the men on this app are simply seeking a vulnerable piece of ***If this is not you and you truly want to make an impact like myself then where do we go from here?
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I tried to say *** but it kept on censoring me.
Funny how the government wants to teach our children gay and lesbian ¥*** but we can’t publish the word ***!
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Censorship at its finest! Try to type the word a** and see where it goes! Then say “teach kids how to be gay or lesbian”. See which is censored.
See that works! Let’s emasculate the entire population!
The advise I got from my sponsor was don’t be where you don’t need to be. Have an escape wherever you go. I didn’t give up all my friends, but early on in sobriety they understood I may just ghost if I was feeling triggered. Sometimes I just walked away for a hour, and called my sponsor, sometimes it was all night. It does get easier and true friends will be supportive, and understanding. Now I can be around them all night. The urges are not there and I have learned how to deal with cravings. Stay the course man. I have found my friendships have become much more meaningful. Good luck bud.
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Slept a lot at first a lot of isolation. Then when I did go out went to completely new job new people so I was so concentrated on the new stuff that it kept my mind busy.
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Welcome! I too know your struggle early on with withdrawal! I literally thought I was going to die. My organs were all shutting down. Sure of it. Friend me if you want to chat. Here for you. 
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I found it really hard the first 30 days. I kept to myself-watched a lot of tv. Read the book The Untethered Soul. Recommended on this app. A lot of people find new friends at meetings. Congrats on your new life!!
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Stay strong bro. I just focus on a point and keep going. But your further than I am.
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There’s a great app called Phoenix that connects people through sober activities in your area, maybe you could branch out and find some new folks to hang out with, rethink how you plan your weekends
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Lonliness like no other, its a constant companion this lonly feeling that addiction brings on us, it also causes us to take on less than satisfactory companions, Its just part of the disease we have, GOD is the answer, and a hard pill for those that want to feel connected right now, bless you and may GOD be with you...Tom
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GTFO with that drivel dude.
See, looks like acronyms work just fine.
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How far are you from Bellevue? We’ll be there camping this weekend. My friend has 10 years of sobriety.
Make new friends. Heck, see if your friends want to get sober. Worth a shot. Their answers might surprise you. Maybe not. Lol Go to a meeting instead of going to the bar. It sucks at first but you’ll feel a heck of a lot better afterwards. And the next morning you won’t have a hangover. 
Reach out! We are all here for a reason and that reason is to get and stay sober.
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I started volunteering. Just a couple days a week. It got me out, gave me purpose, and I have met a lot of great people. I started with a place called Recovery Cafe then was introduced to other volunteer opportunities in my area. Sometimes I have to force myself to go but I mostly look forward to those days. If you do decide to try it out do it on your own terms and enjoy it. 
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