I know your post is old but I'd love to chat. I'm looking to build my network of friends.
I know this is an old post so I'm hoping you are still willing to talk with people. I'm trying to build my network.
I hope you are still willing to talk to people. I'm trying to build my network.
I hope you still have the same phone number and are willing to talk to people. I'm trying to build my network. I'm going to text you later today.
I hope you don't mind me texting you. I'm trying to build my network. I'm going to text you later today and hope you have the same number. Plus, you have an area code close to me, so maybe you can give me some tips about sober meet-ups in our area. I mean, if you actually are in the same area and did not just get a random area from the phone store.
I have the same problem. I'm trying to build my network. I'm going to friend request you and maybe we can chat
I am having trouble finding you to friend request you. Maybe you can find me
9:30 Doyle Park sat morning 10am their is a solution, 7am attitude adjustment
Get to a meeting, and get plugged in with clean people, fellowship is outside the rooms.
It’s hard this time of year too!!!! I got some cranberry juice and sprite to help me.
I get what you are going through. The bottom line is to make new friends. Our friends mean a lot to us but I am sure you used to drink with these friends. One of the first things we learn is to change our people places and things. This is a must . I don't think anyone has stayed clean/ sober hanging out with the people we drank with or used with. Keep pushing and read your literature, go to meetings and expand your network.
Man I've been clean almost 4 years and trust me when I tell you this it gets easier as it goes on but remember this you can't get better if you don't want to get better it's all up to you a good suggestion is when your friends want to go out go to a meeting and just keep doing that and you'll get in the routine trust me it works it saved my life and it'll save yours proud of you man for trying just keep doing the good work
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It’s all about people, places and things and your mindset with each of those. You’re real true friends will understand and have your back to better your life and they will help you every step of the way. Those others aren’t your friends and that’s one of the harder parts of being sober, realizing who were and are your friends and who is not. Wish you the best. Keep your head up. It does get better with learning, understanding, compassion for yourself and what you are experiencing.
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I’ve been going to meetings through lifering.com and the smart recovery app. There are online meetings all day. You can turn your camera off and not share and just listen or participate if you want. It’s helped me this last week just having a system of like minded people for support.
You’re not alone, even if it feels like it’s you against the world right now. 12 days in is brutal—you’ve got enough distance to feel the cravings and the consequences, but not enough clarity to see the rewards. Yet.
Weekends suck early on. Straight up. So rewrite them. Make them sacred. Schedule something every hour. Gym. Movie. Cold shower. Phone call. Journaling. Repeat. Don’t give your brain time to whisper.
And don’t wait to feel ready to help others. You’re ready now. What you just posted might have saved someone else from drinking tonight. Keep doing that.
Also? Find one sober friend. Online, in real life, wherever. Someone who gets it. It makes all the difference.
Keep going. The pain you're feeling is the proof you're breaking the cycle.
—Someone who's been there
I don't really hang out with people who drink all the time
Where is that? I’m in Canada BC
So how’s it been going?
Hope all is well w you...I too struggle w coming to the realization that I have to find new friends. It sucks but it's the hand we have been dealt. I've met a lot of new sober people to going to meetings and what I've found is not only new friends but an actual new family that genuinely care about me and my recovery. They don't care if I've got dope in my pocket or any money to spare. On the other hand they listen ...actually listen to my struggles and give advice where needed. They call me out on my bullshit and my "stinkin thinking"...and GOD knows that's what I need! Also giving it to your higher power is alot easier than trying to handle it alone. They tell me to not to be so hard on myself ...just take it day by day and even minute by minute whatever helps you to get through another day without using...you can do this...You have a life full of blessings ahead of you...hang on and you will see how good GOD and your life can really be. I hope this helps you...keep reaching out !
Quinton….. go to a meeting, go shopping, even just window shopping, the library is a great quiet place if quiet is what you’re after, is there a Barnes & Noble in your area and I don’t mean online style I mean an actual Barnes and Noble, great place to meet people, go to a grocery store you wouldn’t normally go to….. and again you don’t have to spend a dime, just a nifty way to meet people….. Now, my next comment may not be liked by many but here I go anyway…… I’m not a AA, NA, or any “A”meeting fan….. that being said I have been sober for 3 1/2 years:muscle:t3:
Now Quinton, meetings most definitely are a GREAT WAY for most folks to be around sober folks!! Just sayin . Coffee 
shops are a lovely place to check out and in 2025 there are soooooo many cute ones to visit…. And I don’t mean Starbucks 
There are lots of great places to visit and checkout. Of course I have no idea what your social life is like, or if you feel like being around people right now, but just wanted to share some great places to stay away from bars.