Your comment is really why we have Recovery meetings. AA worked for me but there’s a ton of other groups that meet in person that will help you find what you’re looking for. To try and white knuckle sobriety and gang out with old acquaintances that party is not going to get you very far I’m afraid. God bless you and I hope you give AA or another program a try
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Aa. Org for meetings.90 meetings in 90 days.aa
A lot of aa meetings and meet people and friends.go every day for a year.
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I don’t talk to any of my friends that constantly party. I always come up with an excuse for how as I’m also new to sobriety. I stay busy around the house and with my sober apps. Working out. Everyday I wake up and check my sober apps. And try to find a virtual meeting. I start my day with the though that I am staying sober today, no matter what. It is kind of lonely at times but I’d rather be lonely than in the bars doing the same toxic things over and over that I know don’t get me anywhere but depressed or in handcuffs.
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That seems like such an amazing way to live life. The lonely part I’m feeling pretty hard. But such a good point- depressed or in handcuffs. I have enough mental health struggles as it is, even without the boozin’. I must say it’s especially hard for us Iowans cuz we LOVE to drink.
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Finding people to talk to is key, I am doing my sobriety alone. I used an App called I Am Sober and a while ago jumped on here. I continue to get on and read people's comments and posts and comment. It my way of staying active and talking about it. I'm currently 312 days sober, in the beginning the struggle was real, but I kept going and you can too!
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You’re absolutely right about that. I’ve grown up around alcohol my entire life. Everyone I know drinks. But most of them can handle it. I can’t. That’s what I have to remind myself.
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You are not alone. I was like this is the beginning. I had to change people places and things. It’s uncomfortable. Going to meetings and talking about with my fellowship really helped. My relationship with my god has changed everything
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Everyone’s advice is 
. Find what works for u and run with it . Meetings for me is what made me feel like I wasn’t alone and your not. There is an entire sober community out there for u to connect with. Meetings not only made me feel less alone but I could actually relate to others and what they were saying ! It was incredible. I didnt make a lot of sober friends at the beginning (and still don’t have many) but it was hearing ppls stories and being able to connect with others through our experiences that made the difference for me. Apps are great but meetings are where you will find the program of recovery and hopefully a sponsor eventually (my sponsor fu*kin rocks and I would not have been able to do this journey, especially the beginning without her) . Aa inter group has thousands of meetings all day everyday ! When I first got sober I surfed through this website till I found the meetings that worked for me (I found handfuls of meetings that I still attend today) and also yes sobriety may be lonely at first but that’s when the gift of rediscovery yourself happens . Can’t have a rainbow without the rain . Keep on chunggin along …one day , one minute , one second at a time . It gets better if u work for it. U got this
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Keep reaching out and talking about it. Stay connected. Here for you
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Hi Quinton, I felt like that a lot when I first got clean. I still feel like that some days, but it subsides.
I’m only 24 and the thought of not being able to drink or use pretty much ever again is so unsettling; but I know it’s for the good !!
I learned, that being sober and having the opportunity to say to people “no thank you, I’m 23 days sober and living a clean life” gives me this ego high, that I don’t think any drug or drink can give me. But that high allows me to thrive off that and enjoy my time and have fun, even if it’s not like the fun I use to have.
If your in recovery, being in an environments that peers are drinking can be triggering and make you question yourself and abilities to stay sober. I know I personally get jealous when I see people “partying”, because it’s like hey I want to join but I know I can’t.
It’s definitely important to find sober friends, not that there anything wrong with your current friends. But I learned for the sake of my sobriety it’s best to stick around people who practice sobriety as you do.
I’m always here to chat 
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Don’t pick up no matter what and find what works for you …. Meetings , religion , nature , excercise, journaling …. There is no one way .
AA and meditation have saved my life and as I stay sober I get more tools to enhance my recovery . I would say go to 90 meetings in 90 days , find a sponser and start working the steps immediately . That’s my suggestion because that’s what’s totally changed my life 
hang in there and be gentle w yourself
Thank you for sharing the Phoenix . I just downloaded the app. It seems really great. Thank you again.
I've met so many great AA members at my home group. Alot of us after meetings bbq, go out to eat ect. That's helped me alot. Stick with it, it gets better over time.
Great Post… I think we all can relate. For me it was praying and meditating really hard and then going to as many meetings as possible and also getting a sponsor and just putting myself out there In meetings and getting peoples numbers. Hugging strangers. Whatever just to feel that HUMAN CONNECTION that we all need. Hang in there brother
Maybe a counselor or church group. I know AA works for a lot of people due to the companionship. I personally rely on Jesus Christ 
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Thanks James, this validates a lot of where I’m at in my recovery 
I haven’t seen some of my own family since being in recovery because everything revolves around drinking. I just celebrated 21 months and honestly I am at the point that I am ok with not seeing people or not going places. I know for me this is how it needs to be for me to keep my sobriety. I have finally connected with people in person also in sobriety and it’s amazing. Check out meetings and make new friends. You will be the best for it.
Here if you ever need an accountability partner man!
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