So I am at a halfway house. Another resident told me angrily to Suk his Dik and called me a faggot drama queen. 2 staff witnessed this. I spoke with the Director of residential services for the entity that runs the hose and she told me the resident probably won't be discharged. This is un acceptable to me. I don't know what to do. If I file a complaint with NY state it will take them months to do anything. I can't leave because I have no where to go. I don't bother anyone, have never even admitted being gay to anyone in the house other than my counselor. I feel so angry and lost. I don't know what to do.
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Don't do anything. Act like the queen of England and pay no attention to that trashy peasant. Or confuse him with loud, random movie quotes such as, "I can't pull over any further!" Do or do there is no try.
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Why let that individual take your peace of mind? Focus on what you need to do to get off paper and move forward to where you want to be. Be like what Mr. McCartny said,"Let it be." To quote Mr. Lennon. "Give peace a chance."
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Bill, sorry you’re feeling horrible. Unfortunately there will always be challenges for us all. In the AA program and 12 steps I learned that I have real tools to deal with all the challenges of life. Are you working on the 12 steps with a sponsor?
I’m here if you have any questions
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Not worth your time, energy or serenity...don't ever give anyone else your power...except God/your higher power!!! Focus on you and what you need to do for your recovery...that other person is just as sick and suffering and needs to deal with his own self. Not your job.
Pray, read the Big Book, talk to your sponsor and let your higher power sort it out...let it go, for your own peace.
That's ridiculous on that person's part. And unnecessary. I'm sorry that you're going through that. Just be the bigger person and don't let anyone take anything from you. Including your place to live. Stay calm, stay on your path and reach out to someone on here if it gets to be too much
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Hey.\n Whatever your name is. It's a bit, you know, it really what it comes down to is that these people are acting this way towards you, because they don't have any thing to talk about good about themselves. So what they're doing is it's taking it out on you to make themselves look that good. But, technically, if you ask me, I think that for you to go and tell people what you're going through is more powerful for you and making them look like a fool, so you know what, remember one thing that God made everybody. In his image the way he wanted you to be, it's the way you are going to be, and if people don't like that, then you know what you don't need that, okay, because remember, not everyone is going to like you if everyone liked everybody for who they were, the world would be born. So boring not born, so I wouldn't sweat that I would just\n Go on being who you are. God loves you and just remember that. Okay, love yourself because God gets pleasure out of what goes on in your life. Remember, he created you and he only knew what was going to happen and this was gonna happen to you. So don't sweat that, okay, I don't even know when I love you, that's the Christian thing to do, love you. Show love yourself and love that person.Whoever spoke to you badly member, he's the one who's the fool, not you evidently, his mother didn't send him to school, so that's why he never became cool.Take care of yourself
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Thanks I needed to hear that
They probably need a hug. That's all I know.
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Honestly it depends if you and the person do you value them. It’s not real your time is of value. It’s always easy to normalize so pray/meditate there nothing wrong with setting boundaries. Your Recovery has to come first in your life because it is life or death: or jails institutions or death.
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