Sober by choice and dating can be rough. I prolonged going sober even though I wanted it bc of dating and today a guy told me I wasn’t datable bc me being sober was boring and not spontaneous enough for him. 
(we hadn’t yet to meet). Didn’t realize the two correlated 
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That guy sounds like a lame! 
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Thank you! Needed to vent. Literally the majority of me dating when guys find out I don’t drink they ditch. Like is alcohol that important. It’s a substance
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No worries! Some guys just don’t get it.
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I always mention it before I even meet them so they’re aware haha not trying to hide anything 
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His loss 
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Thats why we are here for each other, your gorgeous his lose
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The honest truth for a lot of people is that keeping alcohol in their life is more important
than any relationship they have or might have in the future . Even if they aren’t “alcoholics “ ... the thought of existing without booze is too troubling to consider . The other issue is that a lot of guys bank on girls being drunk /buzzed to get what they want physically and might think that’s off the table if a girl doesn’t drink . Not “spontaneous enough “ probably translates to he doesn’t think you will be as open to physical stuff as a girl who drinks . Honestly your sobriety will act as a pretty good filter to find guys who want to actually get to know you vs just looking for a quick hookup .
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Very wise. And I don’t mind dating someone who drinks. I just wont haha but valid point on the hook ups haha
You don’t need him then if he can’t respect your sobriety
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That person sounds greasy. He doesnt even know you and bases your personality off of a very disciplined and healthy choice. Theres life outside of getting lit. What ever happened to people being themselves and /or enjoying things without being under the influence? Nah girl you dodge a weird guy lol....
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You wrote this so perfectly. And just so so true.
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I don’t go on a date at a bar with someone new but if we have dinner I personally don’t feel I need to tell them anything. I think establishing boundaries is good. I don’t owe anyone I meet for a date an explanation for this. Trust is earned.
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Just be very, very careful about relationships for at least a year. Trust me on this, because I have done “research” more than once. Hardly anything busts up a length of sobriety more than a relationship. Personally, I need an 18-month chip before I dip my toe in that pond again. But, I know, easier said than done. Congrats on staying sober. Now, fight like mad to keep it. 
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If someone can’t appreciate you. For who you are and being sober to have a better life. There are many more that will! Awesome job being sober!! Congrats!!
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I agree
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Exactly!!! Love this. You get me girl haha
Yes this is sooooo true!
Hey
If being with someone because they drink or don’t drink is no way to go through life
I have no idea how sober people put up with us and our constant destruction of everything good in a relationship
Once you sober up why do you want to be with a drunk
Trust me you don’t
That’s why you get sober
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Lol, stay away from folks like him, reason being that is all he has , mind altering living
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